Tell you the obvious? ...What's the obvious? You don't need to worry about judgment here. We're all here for the same thing..support from others who understand what it feels like to care about someone who is far away.

As far as experience with someone from the Philippines, the most that I know is a woman I used to work with named Blanca whom I absolutely adored. I don't really think that you can use any "experiences" to help you in this case, though; everybody is different...an experience with an American man could either be horrible or wonderful..it's not really something that has a real answer.

I'm glad that you have met someone who you hit it off with and care about. I can tell you that LDRs are hard work and they're very trying, but they're also incredibly rewarding and very worth it. If you're willing to put in the extra effort to make it work out, it may be the best thing you've ever done for yourself.

And of course, welcome to the group. We're all here for you to listen and help with any concerns or issues you may have..or, to rejoice with you when something goes right :)

I hope being here helps you as much as it's helped me.

I am unclear as well, what is it that is obvious to you?...

We are all here to support anyone that comes along during the good and bad. IMO we have a really great time doing it...I have found this group to be so uplifting in my down times. I appreciate everyone!

Now, I am not judging you or trying to be a pessimistic but I will lay out probably what you already know, please be careful and do your research...

As for the LDR in general, they can be very fulfilling as well as frustrating at the same time. I would think that goes for anywhere around the globe but oh so worth it...

I am happy you hit it off & I hope it works out! And welcome to the group...

Welcome to the board Neil. I have to echo the others with you don't need to worry about judgment here. With any LDR where you first met on-line, you just need to make sure they are in the relationship for the right reasons. I have no experience in a LDR with someone from another country, we're both in the U.S. but my partner and I did originally meet on-line. There are a few people here that are in a relationship and they live in different countries and there is a couple that posts here on occasion in a LDR where she's in the Philippines and he's in Canada.

Welcome... tell us more!

The obvious refers in my original post to the effort just to get a green card..etc...there are THOSE certainly out there...

I like to think that we connected on a real fundamental level,,I think she is the real thing,,and we already had some heart to heart discussions ..she has an interesting story about her...which I may go into later on..

Yeah, there are quite a few people on here two are in a relationship with people from different countries/continents/whatever. I don't know from personal experience but I've heard it's really a struggle with the visa and green card and everything. However, if you want to make it work, I'm sure you can :) You just need to be patient and willing to work for it.

Welcome aboard! This community is amazing...no judgment will be passed here for sure. As with ANY new relationship, it's important for you to do your research and to tread carefully.

My boyfriend is from Scotland and I'm from the US. He's in the process of becoming a citizen and everything should be finalized next year. I can tell you that the whole process is quite daunting, but well worth it for sure!

I think you should focus on getting to know each other first and planning visits (if you haven't done so already) before jumping quite so far ahead. It'll happen if you both put forth the same effort and I'm happy to see you've found someone with whom you can really connect. Best of luck to you both!