Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Support Group
This community is a place where you can share your long distance challenges and triumphs, vent, give long distance tips and ideas, or just get support from people like you who are going through the same thing. Whether you live a couple hours away or a couple continents away, the specific challenges that face a long distance relationship are unique and difficult.
I get asked this a lot - how often does everyone communicate with their SO?
I've been through a couple different long distance relationships - one was because he went to London for school, the other two were because we met while living apart. The second long distance relationship was, I can safely say, a 2-year waste of my time disaster. After the honeymoon phase of about 5 months, the communication fell off the radar and I could hardly get a hold of him. We broke up, got back together, bla bla, but I was convinced that there is no way to get consistent communication out of LDRs and therefore LDRs don't work.
With my current SO, 14 months and counting, we have talked literally every day. He's been in Vietnam for the past week and the only day we didn't talk was when he was on his flight over there.
So it really depends, but I know a friend who is also in an LDR and they are very busy so they don't get to talk every day. Only a few phone dates a week.
So how often for you?
I've been through a couple different long distance relationships - one was because he went to London for school, the other two were because we met while living apart. The second long distance relationship was, I can safely say, a 2-year waste of my time disaster. After the honeymoon phase of about 5 months, the communication fell off the radar and I could hardly get a hold of him. We broke up, got back together, bla bla, but I was convinced that there is no way to get consistent communication out of LDRs and therefore LDRs don't work.
With my current SO, 14 months and counting, we have talked literally every day. He's been in Vietnam for the past week and the only day we didn't talk was when he was on his flight over there.
So it really depends, but I know a friend who is also in an LDR and they are very busy so they don't get to talk every day. Only a few phone dates a week.
So how often for you?
We e-mail, cellphone text and we meet at hotmail messenger each night (video chat)!!!
Find him at msn is the best part of my day!!!
(Sometimes if I am down is the only thing I do).
I also have the opportunity to practice my English every day. English is not my mother tongue. I speak Spanish.
I am looking for go to US to study my master...
My boyfriend and I communicate every day. Like we always say, communication is so, so important. There are times when it literally IS your relationship. If I go a few hours without hearing from him, it really bothers me.
How about the rest of you? How long does it take before you start going insane without communication? Hours? Days? Minutes, lol?
We email a few times during the day and I always send him a good night email right before I go to bed. I'm up way earlier than him in the morning so it's nice reading his reply to my good-night email early in the morn while I'm having my coffee.
My boyfriend and I talk pretty much all day...that would be excessive to most I'm sure but it works for us. We Yahoo chat at work and call each other when we get home and before bed. We have Skype dates sometimes too. He's no longer touring so we actually get to spend weekends together too, so that's a major plus for me. :)
Marie, by saying touring, do you mean your SO is in a band..? Would he have done anything I've heard? That's so cool :) I LOVE guys who like music..when I found out Eddo can (semi) play piano, I swear I fell more in love with him :)
We start at 4am-5am before work...
Then from 7am pretty much we text every hour on the hour several times per hour all day long. Oh, & his lunch is 1230-100 thats a call. A few times in the afternoon, after 5pm we talk on the phone for close to an hour usually. Skype time for 1-2 hours before bed. If I cant sleep (or arguing) txt or call in the middle of the night...lol
Weekends if he doesn't work Skyping allows us for 3-4 hours a couple times a day, phone calls all day long and text pretty much still every hour unless either one of us are out.
It can be a seriously exhausting schedule but worth every minute to us.
~Christine
You know David used to check his mail all the time until he started communicating with me all the time now he never looks anymore & even when i send him mail I have to tell him. Hes just so busy with me....
You all ever tried out that HoochieMail.com
I sent it to him and we Skyped and read it together its seriously most funny. Check it though seriously before you send it to see if it isnt messed up it could put him in the wrong cloths!!! LMAO