Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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karanhere 07/04/2010

Its been a very long time that I have posted anything out here.
But today I am feeling really bad.
Today was a Sunday and my flatmates went out but they did'nt even bothered to ask me even though I was sitting right there.
They never ask me to go out with them.But when they need something they are not even ashamed to ask it.I would have gone somewhere else but I don't wanna live alone and also cannot afford it.
I know all this stuff makes me sound like a loser and weak but I am not weak.I just needed to get this out of me.

I am asking this question to myself again and again why do I have to go through all this.I have'nt done anyone's bad or hurt anyone,I always try to help others and yet I have to go through this.

Don't know How much I can take it?

deleted_user 07/04/2010

I know what you mean man, your not weak I agree with that I've had my fair share of being in the same situation as you. The way I dealt with it was that I stopped hanging out with that group. Maybe its time for you to find a new set of friends. Easier said then done I know but maybe its for the best, or maybe just ask them if you can tag along. I've done that a few times and felt stupid doing it but a lot of the time it ended up that they would call me to hang out the following day. Doesn't hurt to try.

I don't know if what I'm telling you makes any since because I'm still in the middle of figuring it out myself but I hope it helps.

deleted_user 07/04/2010

Hugs K... and I agree ask to go along or find other things to do.

karanhere 07/05/2010

Yea thats an option but I really don't wanna be a pile on.
I want to have genuine friends and I know I can be one.But I guess I am destined to go through this.
Neways thanks guys for the replies....

deleted_user 07/05/2010

Hi K, I know how you feel. I have been in the same situation, I give and put myself out there for others and I feel like I get disrespected or overlooked. Just hang in there. Try to find other things to do or other friends that have a common intrest as you.

deleted_user 07/05/2010

Yes, I think we have all experienced that wonderful doormat feeling at one point or another Do you enjoy the time you spend with these ppl? Do you find yourself smiling and laughing when you're around them or wanting to jump out of the car when it's moving super fast....j/k but you know what I mean... I asked myself that question about my ex-friend and I chose the latter answer so now she is on the block list...a little easier since I don't live with her though...lol...sometimes we have to cut the negativity out of our lives though before it eats us alive....Keep me posted as I know it's not easy to just up and make new friends (especially genuine ones!!) but much easier to fall back to old negative ones...XO-M.

deleted_user 07/05/2010

MBurnOut... i like the approach.. a novel way to evaluate people :)

deleted_user 07/05/2010

Thanks but just so you know I don't evaluate everyone that way...lol....just the ones I'm having "issues" with. Are they sinking you or are they enhancing you? ;)

deleted_user 07/06/2010

Please don't call yourself a loser. It's a word I can find myself using to describe my situation and I try to avoid it as it is a real put down of ourselves and it doesn't help.

deleted_user 07/07/2010

Hey Karan,
Just hang in there.....I think many of us face these kind of issues - you just gotta stay strong - I have often faced this and continue to do so with my roommates too - they are just as selfish and the worst was them going out when I was severely ill, but they won't hesitate if they have doubts during exams - I always keep telling myself, 'This too shall pass..' and it will so don't worry...the good stuff is somewhere nearby, so tough it out and soon you'll find your reason to smile...

karanhere 07/07/2010

Thanks for the replies guys..
I really appreciate it...

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