Lying to fit in is very common

I think they call it a persona? The social mask

Do you know some people murder and hang out with the corpses they are so lonely!?

I'm sorry you don't feel accepted for who you are

Suggest learning counselling skills, do it often, these habits then become a reflection of who you are, so your not being false, your being you. And listen to others loads and talk about yourself little.

Join groups where you can hang out and just listen to others talk

I even went to a meditation group where we never talked and that was very positive.

It is very hard to find a healthy group that is kind to all and not toxic. Religious groups might do it. I read in books that therapy groups might achieve this.

I've given up on all that as I've finally got a partner.

Fitting in seems to involve your ability to take On group behaviour and blend in. I guess for most humans taking on the characteristics of the group doesn't feel false like they are a pretender. They actually know it's them fitting in and being accepted

I guess you need to be honest I'm I pretending to be a good person to get people interested then the mask is slipping and the people are running away cheesed calling you bad.
Or is it more superficial stuff like pretending to share the same interests and having a Ferrari and being a Dr

If your a bad person you've got to change your insides to have good character. I don't know how hard this is. But maybe it's as simple as dishonesty is bad and I will be honest in future. Remembering the rule if it's not KIND honest and necessary don't say it

If it's just you've realised that people with high status who have stuff like millionaire d President with six pick get more loving, then yeah expect to be found out eventually and to have negative social consequences. The woman after a rich guy is going to resent having wasted her time on a poor guy. The guy after a beautiful woman gets pissed to have ugly kids and realise his wife had surgery or write make up

I guess it's personality and ego stuff.

If your doing fine in these areas then just keep searching until you meet people who want you. It does happen.

Any way that's my two cents

If you want to talk send us a message

Really sorry for my lame reply, alot of people are better than listening than me

when I found acceptance and validated myself there was no need to hide, nor take on what others thought of ne.

Also don't get duped into believing people have to know everything about you otherwise your not accepted for who you are!

Just dont rock the boat in a friendly group and repeat. If people let you hang out and involve you now and again your accepted

But as others say accepting yourself is a powerful place to be