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Tupperware Friend

Lily61
Lily61
Ever have one of those supposed friends who invites you to every home sale party (Tupperware,etc.), but never asks you over to her house for anything else? Then shows up at my house when it's time to sell her kid's Girl Scout cookies or magazines or whatever.

Well, I got another "party" invitation and I just don't think I'll be going. I'm not rich or anything. Sometimes, I think I have a magnet that attracts all the people that no one else wants for a friend. Anybody else ever feel that way?
deleted_user
deleted_user
ah, that sounds frustrating and insulting. i have had people like that in the past. sometimes they turned into better friends for a while but it didn't last. keep looking elsewhere. it's also possible that this person has poor social skills too. but any relation based upon a transaction ain't much and can falter at any time according to "supply and demand". sorry but you will find someone else who is not kind of a flake.
deleted_user
deleted_user
There is a give and take in all relationships, but it sounds like this person is out for personal gain. I know people like that. You could tell this person that you are not interested in attending these parties. After a while she will get the message and stop inviting you (hopefully).
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thats an acquaintence not a friend
P00hbear
P00hbear
I agree - I am learning the difference between an acquaintenace and a friend myself, and I've been surprised to find out a few people I thought were friends, aren't. I wouldn't go to the party either..
karanhere
karanhere
Hi.
I am sorry but i don't get you when you say "I think I have a magnet that attracts all the people that no one else wants for a friend."
What kind of people are you talking about.
Is it really that person's mistake that no one wants to be his/her friend.
Please reply to my msg.
TAKE CARE.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hmm, that's a toughie. Sometimes we fall into a role when you make a new friend. Maybe you are in the Tupperwary party role with this friend.

Instead of taking the negative slant why not invite this friend to do something else and break that role? Invite her and her husband over for dinner or go to the movies one weekend. Who knows, you may become best buds!