Those who DO have some family and friends have no idea what its like to have absolutely no one.

I lost my family when I was very young but had loads of friends and worked till I retired 5 years ago. Even then, I had a couple of friends and volunteered 3 days a week at our local hospital,

Since then, one friend died, one friend went into some sort of depression and is in contact with no one, another friend and I had a falling out and our hospital closed. So now, I only volunteer one day a week at my temple and one day at a rehab center gift shop. For 5 days I am home doing nothing. I used to be a shopaholic but I dont need clothes now - no where to wear them.

No one ever calls me or texts me. I am usually the one that has to do it. I gave up being the first one to call and text people. I can have my phone turned off for weeks and no one ever calls or texts me.

I totally relate and I just want to sit in the corner and cry.


ladydi1961

Hi all. I'm a new member. I'm 23 years of age and just lost 3/4's of the 'friends' that I had within the past year and a half. It's probably been over a year since I received a phone call from someone asking how I was doing.

My (very small) family isn't supportive and say that It's my shy, quiet personality and depression that drives people away. I'm then basically told to not come around because I drag people down with me in to a spiral of despair..thus forcing me to be isolated in my room.

I am jobless so I can't simply go out and enjoy myself in solidarity. Most of the time I'm made out to be ungrateful for what I have. I'm thankful I'm not homeless (I was throughout my teenage years), yet I don't see how any sensitive person can say such a thing if they've never walked in my shoes.

Yup, I know what that's like.

I have trained myself to respond to my empty voicemail each evening with a humorous response of some sort like, "Well, here I am Ms. Popular!"

Using humor and irony to overcome bad feelings is such a cliche, but it helps me very often.

Well,that isn't always a bad thing,since most of the time,people usually only call if they want something from me. I do know what you're saying,since I have actually checked the phone before to make sure it's actually working! I feel invisible most of the time.so that doesn't really help! Hope you have a better week!

The last voice mail I got on my phone was from myself! I called myself and left some loving, supportive messages. When I'm feeling really down, I play them and try to love myself more.

DancingToes, I do the same thing except with email. Whenever I'm feeling down or I'm sick of never getting any messages. I'll send emails to myself that say supportive, encouraging things. Then if I want to get the message again I just hit "reply", lol.

On the really bad days, it does seem to help a little.

"A waiting phone never rings".

Just like watching water boil - it never does. But I'm not waiting for the phone to ring. if I'm out and come home, there's no red light on the phone indicating a message. Sometimes I dont know if I have a voice or not unless I talk to myself.