Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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mas5707 04/20/2010

I notice people taking what they have for granted all around me. I hear people complaining about their boyfriend or girlfriend. I hear people breaking up because of the smallest or stupidest things. I hear people complaining, even here on DS, about being completely alone, and then complaining about their significant other. I just want to hit these people, because they are NOT completely alone. I, on the other hand, am completely alone. I'm 20 years old and a sophomore at the #1 party university in the country. I'm really lucky if I go out once every other week with a friend. I have never had a girlfriend. Which reminds me, I also hear people saying how wonderful being single is. I have been single for the last 20 years, and I think it's the worst thing ever. Yes, I do live at home, but my family doesn't understand. My parents at least have each other and my siblings go out with friends a whole lot more than I do. Any of them aren't my age so I just can't hang out with them without being really awkward.
Thanks for reading. I just needed to get this out.

deleted_user 04/20/2010

Hey man, I hear you. I have been alone (no girlfriend/friends/going out...etc...) for the last 23 years. It's not like I havent had the opportunity too. I'm just too shy and that gets me depressed and more anxious. I knw where your coming from though. I think we both just need girlfriends and get laid or something.....lol. Who the hell knows?

deleted_user 04/20/2010

Hey...you're 20 and in college... GO OUT. Walk up to a stranger on your campus and make a new friend. Go sit in your library and connect with someone even if its over a book. Ask someone a questions. Do something...

I'm 27 and 6 years out of college...every day I find myself wishing I was back because it was so easy to reach out and connect with people my own age.

Don't waste your college years, please. Go sit on your campus and make friends with a stranger. College is a breeding ground for making friends...use it to your advantage. Please.

mas5707 04/20/2010

Honestly, if is was just that easy to make friends I would of done it by now. It's like telling a drug addict to stop taking drugs and expect them to do it just then and there. I'm not saying I'm addicted to drugs or anything, but I definitely have a problem.
Kmack- I am the same way. I am just to damn shy to do anything. I get so down that I don't want to do anything.

deleted_user 04/20/2010

mas -- I know it's hard, but I can't resist pointing out that you might be doing what you say that others are doing -- taking people for granted.

You say you are completely alone -- followed by saying you have parents, and siblings, and least a friend every other week.

That is a lot more than many people have!

I truly do not mean to diminish your feelings of loneliness and what is bad in your life -- just want to point the *good*!!

Hugs to you.

deleted_user 04/20/2010

I don't want to downplay you guys' loneliness and misery, but just wanted to let you know that having a girlfriend/boyfriend is NOT a fix-all. It comes with a whole new slew of issues. You have to learn how to live with someone with a different schedule, coping skills, emotional oppenness, and communication habits. Basically, DRAMA. A relationship is hard. work.

I know I'm actually 'happiest' when I'm single and have a few Friends with Benefits, but no committed boyfriend. However, since I am a codependent, I am still desperately seeking love, or at least a life partner.

My suggestion for mas and Kmack may be to get to know some girls online. Even on craigslist (just don't expect too many winners there). Then spend some time IM'ing or talking to them on the phone. If you decide you like them, THEN meet in person and see where it goes from there.

deleted_user 04/20/2010

Yeah, I agree dvs. I'm not sure it's a girlfriend I want. I think I would rather have a friend with benefits as you mentioned. That could be a lot of fun. I don't like the whole idea about commitment and being with that one person for the rest of your life thing. I really just want/need some action.....lol.

mas5707 04/20/2010

First of all, I appreciate all the response. Second of all, I don't think friends with benefits is right for me. Sex should be between people that truly love each other, not between people who see who can get the most or because they're bored. Yeah, I do want some action, but I also want more than just a friend. I deserve more than that.

deleted_user 04/20/2010

good for you, mas. It's great you know what you want. I was just saying what worked well for me. That definitely doesn't mean it would work best for you or everyone out there.

You DO deserve more than casual sex if that is what you want.

deleted_user 04/21/2010

Yeah. I agree 100% with that if what you want is more than sex right now. I just know I am not ready personally for a serious relationship and all that. So all I'm really looking for is a one night stand.....I think so anyway.

mas5707 04/21/2010

Thanks for all the opinions. I know everyone's view will be different and I have to accept that.
I don't know, maybe just getting laid will boost my confidence to be more out going and actually find a serious relationship. the problem now is just getting laid.

deleted_user 04/21/2010

Yes. I share that problem as well....damn!

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