It aint forever. You can make changes, get help meds might help.... just dont wait for soething to change

DO something!

Your reply was not helpfull,i have been on many different meds for 16 years,,and have done a hell of alot to help myself , severe anxiety and depression is very disabling.Please read my profile before making silly comments

Hi Karl! Although I do not know much about having anxiety, I can say that lonliness is temporary. It feels like forever because it is a horrible feeling but it does get better. As far as the online dating, that might be a good thing. Especially if you are afraid to make the first move. It is far easier to make your move via email rather than face to face... just my opinion. Take your time, get to know someone via email - try not to focus on them not liking you because of the anxiety/depression :)
Sorry if that does not help. Just know that you are not alone. We are all here for the same reason. We are lonely... someday it will get better!

Hi yes i think my lonliness is temporary and it does seem to go on forever and i have been bogged down by multiple problems.I have had previous partners that have accepted me and my anxiety/depression,think im just cautious as my last 2 partners were unfaithful and it takes such a long time to emotionally recover.I think i will email some ladies and see what happens ,thanks for your helpfull advice :)

Yeah, that is a tough thing to get over.... trust me, I know all about that :)

Good luck with the ladies :)

I guess I don't feel lonely as much as "alone". I have no family or friend support and cannot go out alone, so spend a lot of time in 4 walls. Unable to go out means I don't meet people, except here on DS and that has been a god send, but it is not the same as having someone around you who understands and is supportive. ALONE AM I.

I hear you - I feel the same way :)

marylou52 I can relate to those 4 walls hun. I am transgender and I lost all my friends when I came out. I have 2 cats and without them I would feel as if my world ended! You start trying to occupy that time then eventually start talking out loud and sometimes to yourself as company. There is nothing do to here but go to bars and I'm not fixing to get beat up in a redneck bar here. The skating ring is nothing but kids. There is nothing here like that for recreation that's safe for me to do being transgender. It can really break you! I am alone and know that no one in this world loves me. I am still alive though. When it's all over I can stand tall and proud and say, "I survived being transgendered!".

I know how you feel. I have social anxiety and agoraphobia, which prevents me from socializing very much. It does make for a very lonely life. Take a chance though, and send an e-mail... you never know! Wishing you the best :-)

Karl,

I do not have the same challenges with anxiety as you seem to have, but really related to both the title and content of your post.

I feel lonely every day. I struggle almost every day.

No one knows. On the outside I seem so together. Inside, I'm falling apart.

All I -- and you -- can do is to not give up hope and keep moving, right?

Wishing you the very best.

KatieMarie,

Any way you can move to a large city??? It sounds like you've got to!

Living in a "hicksville" type place, charming as it may be, certainly is not a place where a transgendered person can thrive, I would think.

In college, my best and closest and truest friend was a male-to-female pre-op transsexual.

When we met, he was still a he on the outside, and then started wearing women's clothing and make-up. Also, the way we related to each other, was def. the way two women relate.

I supported her in every way -- going clothes shopping with her, putting on make-up, standing up for her in front of any of my other friends or anyone else who was not cool to her.

I even made sure my old-fashioned father referred to her as "she" and used her newly chosen female name.

And on and on. I did it gladly. For me, it went without saying that I would do these things. That's what friends do.

Alas, while praising me for my tolerance, she failed to display tolerance of her own -- and ended our friendship, simply cut me off, because I was a Republican. (Her liberal tolerance only extended so far, after all.)

It was a huge blow to me, and I suffered from the loss (and, what it seemd to me, betrayal) for many years. I am still sad when I think about it.

I hope you don't find my little sob-story tedious. I guess your comment about all your friends deserting you when you came out as transgendered triggered memories of my opposite experience!

I am truly sorry that your friends couldn't continue to see you for the person you are.

My heart goes out to you, it really does.

Would love to hear if you're job-hunting in other cities or what your plans are for the future. There are def. better places for you!

Hugs.