Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Soon to be 60 and trying to deal with lonliness

oneredroze
oneredroze

I lost my friend of over 20 yrs due to a cat.  Long story.  She was someone who knew me like the back of her hand and in whom I could talk to and tell all my secrets.  Now, there is no one.  I attend a church but the members are much older than me and going to a "meetup" is hard for me due to my shyness and not wanting to go alone.  I know I will never meet a friend or man for that matter, if I do not get out there.  Work is hard too, all the people there are younger than me and I cannot relate to.  I miss having someone to do things with, talk on the phone with and vent.  I live with my son but I cannot depend on him for company, he has his own life.  I know nothing will come of doing this but thought I might reach out and see if anyone else feels the same way. 

lucillegem
lucillegem
welcome to DS
hope you find some comfort here,
Sorry to hear about your friend. it can be tough, the world as it is its so blahh it gets lonely for sure, Its good you are still going out, and it is true! that you wont get out of the comfort zone of loneliness unless you try... continue reaching out! and know your not alone here on DS, warm hugs =)
oneredroze
oneredroze
Thank you lucillegem for your kind words, I appreciate it. Warm hugs back :)
JazzyLady
JazzyLady
Welcome to DS and this site. You definitely will feel accepted here. Continue to share your experience. It is difficult to get out in the REAL world after having a long term relationship with one person. It creates a lot of anxiety and other emotions like lonliness. Some suggestions are volunteering, groups for your interest or hobbies, sports or music events, seeing a movie, browsing at a mall or a library. Try them all until you feel comfortable. Friendly hugs sent your way.
Solus
Solus
Hi onredroze. Sorry you lost your good friend. You must have shared a lot over the 20 years, that’s tough to get over.
Shame there is no one in your age group at work, but at least you still have the routine of work to keep you going.
There are many of us out there that feel isolated and disconnected from those around us.
I hope coming here you will find some comfort in sharing, even if just to vent.

Take care. Have a good Sunday.
maria718
maria718
Hi, glad you wrote, a lot of people here can understand . I am older too, I'm 62 and just recently retired, thank goodness, because everyone at work was younger than me also. Yes it stinks getting older!! Anyway, I want to tell you that in the past I tried everything possible, every which way, to make new friends, and it's just about impossible at our age. People are wrapped up with their families now, so they are not looking for friendships, although there are people out there like us. I wrote to Dear Abby about this problem once. She actually DID put my problem out in print. Her suggestion was: To volunteer OR take a class, do something but make it CONSISTENT. That is the key, consistency, becuase that way you could bond with someone if they see you all the time. I was trying very hard to make friends, maybe too hard. I am doing her suggestion now, and I find I'm happier and already have had good conversations with some people, and it could possibly lead to new friendships. Hey what do you and I have to lose?? Give it a try, I am!
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