Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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dublee
dublee

Hi everyone,


I have never been good at making friends in person. It always makes me feel like I have to strain myself to look for things that others would like to talk about, or when in large groups remain silent, as everyone else tends to talk over me. Some times it just feels easier to let everyone else do all of the talking, and I just sit quietly. I recently moved my family from the west coast to the midwest, in which we have absolutely no family or friends, outside of our neighbors we talk with. My wife wants me to hang out with my coworkers, but I have a hard time doing that disconnect of work and personal life, as eventually one ends up spilling into the other. I have never really felt included in most conversations as well, so it also ends up making it a bit difficult in making new friends.

sonnycamehome
sonnycamehome
I've had similar issues in the past. Volunteer work has been helpful for me-it gives you a setting where you all have the volunteer work in common to talk about which makes conversation a bit easier. I've also found joining a support group to be helpful in building up social skills.
billwfriend
billwfriend
good to meet you.....hugs bill
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
Be active in volunteerism like working part time at a local food bank, volunteering at the local hospital or at the church of your choice or anything connected to the local community where help is needed. Like sonny said.

Being a good communicator just takes practice like everything else. Don't get discouraged if you accidentally say the wrong thing, When meeting someone new, I wait for the other person to start the conversation and if he is waiting on my que, then I will talk about things we may have in common like marriage, family, kids, work, or where I live, where I shop or buy my gas, my hobbies, etc. the list is endless.

One thing I don't do is talk in the negative about people places or things. People are always drawn toward positive people and makes them think you have your stuff together...you know who you are and where you are going in life and others draw off that..

So try that and let us know how it goes.

God Bless
oneredroze
oneredroze
I totally know how you feel. I have always been a loner, can't seem to make friends easily and I get shy. Large crowds seem to make me a "wall flower". I am one of 2 people who are older than the rest of the people I work with and I cannot relate to them at all. All they seem to talk about is the drama in their lives, their kids or significant other. My kids are grown and I'm single. So, I tend to stay to myself most of the time. It would be nice to have an adult to chat with once in a while tho'. I'm also not an outgoing person, which makes it hard for me to go out alone or "meetups", to meet people. It would be great to have someone to text with or chat on the phone with at times. I do hope you will make friends and I wish you the best of luck. I will say a prayer for both of us that we find friends.
BrokenMirror
BrokenMirror
Moving is difficult. I feel the same way a lot. I moved years ago and still struggling to make friends but I’m also isolating which doesn’t help. Can you join something like a gym or art class people with the same interest? This is one of my goals.
dublee
dublee
Hi OneRedRoze. I will just say that one thing that can easily be talked about is your children. Regardless that they are adults now, you can always talk about experiences you had with yours, if people are struggling with similar things. It builds a nice relationship for others knowing there is another parent who had experienced the same thing. Getting out is always frustrating when thinking that there isn't anything to talk about in common with others.

Hi BrokenMirror. I actually make use of the gym at work that I have free access into. Although while there, I usually just stick to myself so I can focus on my workout. I am not good at art, so that would just end up making me feel embarrassed and all of that, which would end up being stressful on myself. Thank you for the suggestions though!
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