Well I caqnt say I know exactly what your going through , but I often feel alone even with friends or a crowed of people. Its hard to feel welcome of loved at times and especially when your life is so full of people that need you to take care of them. You have no time for yourself and that just adds to the lonelyness. Especially with your husband being gone so much. I am guessing your needs are not being met and that too adds to the lonelyness.

I am sorry you have such a burden on you and I can say I understand some of it. I have a child with ADHD/Bi Polar and ODD so I know what a handful they can be to try to raise and take care of.

I am here if you want to talk sometime!

I wish you luck and peace!

I can relate to your Lonliness. I have two wonderful children who I dedicate all of my time too. I love them so much and dread that day they no longer want dear old dad around. However, like you, I don't have a chafe to make any adult friends. I would to find a father who would like to share all of the joys/sorrows/fears of being a father in today's world. Like you, simply having a Facebook friend or someone to text with would be so wonderful. There are so many times I would love to share parenting notes with another father. Alas, that is not meant to be for me. So I know how you feel and what type of friendship you desire.

First to get you introduced to other people-then perhaps you could have them over to your home for snacks or for the kids to play or do crafts/hobbies..Or make special days of the week to go out and do special events which can include your kids but it would be nice if once a week even you could go out just for you.
But first to get you introduced to others-what about your hobbies/crafts? You can meet others with the same interests that way.
What about your special needs child drs? You can meet other parents with the same interest there. As well as contacting forums/groups for kids with special needs-they will help you locate activities and people that also deal with ADHD

it's really important that you at least have one day just for yourself, to get out, meet others that have the same interests as you, possibly volunteering one day a week. Even maybe get to know some parents that have the same issues that you do with your child and share ideas and concerns. This is a very caring and supportive group of people so I'm sure you will meet many people who can relate to you and what you are going through. Hugs GB

HUGS....I know how you feel. I am single with a ton of family around but often it feels like they don't get me that much and are pretty busy. I can feel very lonely at a group event or caf, somewhere in the middle of strangers. We're here for you, take care and welcome to our group,

I do not have children so I have no idea how tough that can be....those who suggested finding local support groups of ADHD parents are giving a good idea to you but then they are just as stressed out as you are and have all their own baggage to deal with and you will find that many are selfishly seeking to only help themselves....so volunteering would be something to enjoy maybe even at your kids school in the library or in some teachers classroom....check with the school secretary about opportunity there....that is a start...it could be problem with your health issue I do not know what that is or how it effects you but hopefully you have some ability to help out someplace and meet other adults...also maybe a church would happen to be helpful if your a person of faith because they have sunday school for kids and adults at the same time and others look after the kids at those times while you study with the other adults and make new acquaintances with the church group....

just odd ball thoughts....take what you want and leave the rest they say in AA

I wish I could volunteer at my kids school however I don't have the time because I run a daycare in my home. I have friends and I go to church. I have a lot of people at church to talk to. It's when Im stuck at home all week Monday thru Saturday that im lonely. I have stomach troubles so I have to be careful what I eat. I have to go often after eating which is hard when your out with 3 kids. I have two best friends but they are both very busy. One is in college and works part time midnights and has two kids and the other runs her own hair salon so she's busy all week. It just feels like I'm stuck. Like everyone else has a social life and I'm stuck at home with nothing to do all the time. I know eventually my kids will be old enough that I can go and do things without needing a babysitter. But I don't want to rush time. I want to enjoy them while they are young and make good memories with them. But I need adult interaction. A real conversation at least once a day. My husband is either working or sleeping and has no idea what it feels like being stuck at home. He doesn't have to ask me to watch our kids when he wants to go do something like hunting or something with a buddy if his. But I have to work around his schedule and ask him to watch his kids if I want to do something. I pretty much gave my life,freedom and social life up when I had kids. My husband didn't give anything up. Don't get me wrong I love my kids and taking care of them. I love that because I work from home I got to see all their firsts and watch them grow up. But what parent doesn't need a break now and then. And time to do something for themselves once in a while. I just want to be happy and enjoy my kids. I guess I need to put an add out and look for a sitter so I can have a few hrs one day a week to myself to get a break.

I wonder if a Meetup in your area -- espec if it is for childcare -- would be where such a person as you speak of..is. . . Meetups I've read are "on-line portals (doorways) to offlioffline, ie f2f, communities."

I agree w your hint : that one person could be what you would start with.

Have u tried any DS groups on child-caring? Just thinkin' where other women would go who are in more or less the same boat as yourself .
...I hope you find someone
to talk to. . . . . . . . Calebb

http://www.circleofmoms.com/stay-at-home-moms/does-anyone-ever-feel-isolated-being-a-stay-at-home-mom-688881/21#replies

... I found. / If this URL/address is read through (i know, it looks like gibberish :) , the topic is seen. I saw year-of-2012 posts; if this topic dried up, maybe CircleOfMoms site has started another. Diff name, same basic topic.

i hope this finds you well . :)

http://www.circleofmoms.com/stay-at-home-moms/does-anyone-ever-feel-isolated-being-a-stay-at-home-mom-688881/21#replies

. . is something i just found. (I gave up looking among DS . )

The first 100 posts in the CircleOfMoms site[Isolation topic] were in 2012; I hope the topic still continues or can be revived easily.

best, C

I wonder if your kids school or some other place-church or hospital has some sort of paperwork or activity they're working on for an upcomiing event that you wcould work on at home for them? You also might look at your interents-crafts/hobbies? See if your kids can get involved helping you with them