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ann54
ann54
I have been feeling this underlying sadness and that brings me close to tears. danny told me he is moving out in june, I know it is bet for him and that he can be such a pain, but I need the rent money I get. everything is going to change drastically, I have to start thinking what to do, sell the house and move where? everything here in ny is so expensive, my daughter wants me to live in the country where yes it would be cheaper, but I will be away from family, my parents are still alive, and my friends I do have. it is hard enough to go to events or even coffee let alone a 30 min. drive, I will never do it. I don't want to get even more isolated, my daughter is very opinated and it causes problems. I am the new kid on the block at the store I transferred to, I started back to work on Monday and it was a really tough week. it is so hard to get to know new people, for the most part they all seem nice I just have to give it time. I have already insulted this one woman, she takes what I say the wrong way so I am going to zip my lips. my artificial knee has a pain in it that wasn't there before, I had noticed it before starting work and it is worrying me. I am going to get it checked out feb 5th, when walking it hurts on the inner side and by the lower leg. not what I need. to many stressors and no way out
billwfriend
billwfriend
Sorry knee hurts I didnt want to hear that as I am hoping for rt knee replacement surgery after may 6 appointment with my ortho as I will get medicare may 1st
gustokitty
gustokitty
Hi Ann. I don't really know your history. I guess Danny is your son? It doesn't sound like you want to add moving to your list of changes. The obvious question is there anyone you can think of that you trust or someone that knows someone that you would consider bringing in as a roommate? I know that's not an easy choice. I have considered it, but my answer is, my house inside is not presentable enough to bring in a roommate, so instead I struggle financially and avoid someone else from this area taking advantage of me. There is also the commute to work. if u don't want to drive 30minutes to see a friend, you won't want a longer commute to work. Sorry about your leg. Glad you are getting it checked.
RetiredHeather
RetiredHeather
hi Ann:: hubby had a Zimmer knee replacement a year and a half ago. He said it still feels strange. But the pain is less, just a constant annoyance type of thing. He's very careful about getting on antibiotics if there's a chance of infection from a cold or if he gets dental work.

Don't be hard on yourself about insulting the woman. When insults aren't intended and people take offense, it's really how they are, not you.

I agree with you saying zip your lip .. I'd love to learn to do that one day :)
annettearizona
annettearizona
sounds like you're doing right with not moving to the country...so you have a friend in NY you could move into a place and share costs with?
Hope your knee gets better soon-perhaps you twisted it without realizing it
JOYHOLY
JOYHOLY
HELLO, YES IT IS SAD AS WE GET OLDER, CHANGES, I TOO WILL HAVE TO MOVE BUT IT WILL BE NEAR MY CHILD AND GRANDCHILD, GOT NO FRIENDS LEFT.
BETTER LOOK INTO A SMALLER PLACE, YOU SHOULD STAY CLOSE TO THOSE THAT CAN HELP YOU, DON'T LISTEN TO YOUR DAUGHTER , YOU ARE THE ADULT, HOPE ALL WORKS WELL.
BEST WISHES, LOVE L************
gramybear
gramybear
Please don't give up sweety. You are going to make good friends at the new company. How could people NOT like you? I completely understand your fear about your living conditions. As many know, I take care of my mother who has COPD and Hospice is now here 3 days a week. I don't want to sound shallow but I do have a terrible concern about when she passes. I own my Mobile Home but I have to pay rent for the land it sits, plus the utilities, cable, phone, internet, etc. I don't know how I am going to do it. I Am on disability and don't make much. I'm afraid of looking for a roommate and not knowing anything about them. If I can even find someone. So I'm available to talk to any time you start to stress about it. Just message me, okay? Hugs GB
billwfriend
billwfriend
my friend just moved in with his old room mate from before....they separated when the friends mom moved back in with her son and the son and her were not getting along...my friend felt stuck in the middle and decided to move out...now since the guys mom died and his financial situation changed drastically at work going to 25hrs week from 40hrs week he did decide to see if he could move back in with the guy who rents him room in basement that just costs him $300 month....no utilities either....hugs
koolman
koolman
Put the word out to everyone you know and on Facebook that you're going to need a new roommate in June.
Calebb
Calebb
Directed to Gramy-B, although others possibly too.

If and when looking for a roommate "take applications." Make it seem that u have more than a couple whom u r looking at..ask for references.

Not necessarily would u sort them all so strictly. But "operators". often see themselves as having something to hide and will not follow up on the application.

Ask to spend time tog. with those who pass the first sorting round. Some (whom u don't want) would not have time, and would see it only as a business deal.

Settle only for *good people.* . ! ! . . / Of course u r not obliged to seal any deal or tell anybody a timeline until 'your banker' thinks it's needed. . . . good luck, regardless --Caleb
ann54
ann54
I am afraid of getting a roommate as much as I want to stay here. danny and I didn't see all that much of each other but he was family and its different. caleb I don't know what you mean by a spend time log, could you explain? I am not ging to move away from things that are near me now, it would be a disaster. I have to consider a room mate seriously but my anxiety goes through the roof just thinking about it.
gustokitty
gustokitty
ann54, I certainly relate to the anxiety of considering a roommate. I have it as well, and the situation with my place being too much of a mess, keeps me from dealing with it. But financially it would be a huge help. It's just not like when being young and easily adjusting to different personalities. Plus people seemed to be more real back then, (and there) safer in general.
gramybear
gramybear
I agree with you completely Calebb. Not only does my Mobile Home Park do extensive background checks but I have a disabled son who was a Deputy Sheriff that would be more than happy to run a very thorough back ground check for me. Don't just rely on an application because people can put anyone down as references just to make themselves look good. I agree with Calebb about letting someone think you have other people to consider and spend some time with them to make sure you are compatible. That is really important. Hugs GB
ann54
ann54
my psychiatrist yesterday talked about a roommate and what I need to do. I will have to consider it no matter how nervous I am. I do have exciting news though, I saw a job opening in my email at my vets office. they are looking for vet techs, no certificate needed and the starting pay is 6$ more an hour then I make now. I emailed my resume to them as said and I am stopping over in person after work today, I am trying to not get to excited. it is full time too and no weekends!
Koyu
Koyu
Keeping my fingers crossed that this job opening will work out for you.

I can empathize with people taking things the wrong way. It seems that no matter how supportive I try to be, people around me get on the defensive. So I keep my mouth shut. But then people think I am unapproachable. I don't know. I can't seem to win.

I also hope that you will find a nice roommate. Trust your gut.

Hugs.
annettearizona
annettearizona
good luck on the new job possibility
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