Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
So rejected all the time.... so hard to explain. I always reach out to friends and family. Have no family here where I live. The family I do have away who I call on occasion and would like to visit and live out of town(especially for my kids sake) reject me. I have to invite myself and then don't feel welcome, even after explaining to them how we have nobody here. I only have my kids. Divorced for 6 years now. My ex has moved on and has been in a relationship for 5 years. I don't get consistent support. Nobody calls me. I reach out to friends all the time. Try and make plans, either lunch or dinners. Reach out, reach out, reach out. Consistently invite friends to things. Send messages. No response. Nobody talks to me at work. People walk by my desk and don't even acknowledge me. My bosses don't even say good morning. I feel like a slave to my kids. The only time they talk to me is when they want something. I have had many takers as friends. As soon as I stopped giving, so many had disappeared. I was very hurt by a friend of mine the other day. The only friend I thought I had. I was visiting with her, left and went home for the evening. She got a knock on the door from a police officer just after I left informing her of her uncle's passing. She was home alone. I spoke to her the next dayr. She said she tried calling all her relatives while being consoled by this strange police officer. She said she could not get a hold of anyone and felt awkward being consoled by this strange officer. I am very hurt that she did not call me cause I would have been there in a flash. I live less than a 5
min drive from her and she is my only friend. Maybe she is my friend in my head again. I have written off all the takers which consisted of almost all my friends. I sent her a message this morning with the following words.... "I am getting sick. My chest and throat are killing me. Very sad and feel so alone. Last night I was in my empty house. The kids are with their dad for a couple of weeks. Sent them a message. They don't reply. Just asking how they are. I cried alot last night. I also wish you had called me on Sunday when you got the news. I would have been there fro you. It hurts that you told me you felt awkward being consoled by a stranger (a cop) when I could have been by your side as a friend in less than 5 mins. I fight this feeling every day, does my existence matter. I don't want to feel like it doesn't but that is exactly how I feel. People or so-called friends don't respond to me. You are my only friend that will call me or send me a message. Starting to feel like it wouldn[t happen if it weren't for me reaching out all the time. So sad. I sent Lina a message last night asking "How are You". She read the message but no response. I am tired of being ignored all the time. Sometimes I wish I could be in heavan with my dad, aunt and uncle. No adult intteraction, very rare". I feel like I want to give up. I have equity in my name (alot). My kids could get the braces they need. They could have so much if I just wasn't here. I struggle with this all the time and really, truly which I didn't have to.
min drive from her and she is my only friend. Maybe she is my friend in my head again. I have written off all the takers which consisted of almost all my friends. I sent her a message this morning with the following words.... "I am getting sick. My chest and throat are killing me. Very sad and feel so alone. Last night I was in my empty house. The kids are with their dad for a couple of weeks. Sent them a message. They don't reply. Just asking how they are. I cried alot last night. I also wish you had called me on Sunday when you got the news. I would have been there fro you. It hurts that you told me you felt awkward being consoled by a stranger (a cop) when I could have been by your side as a friend in less than 5 mins. I fight this feeling every day, does my existence matter. I don't want to feel like it doesn't but that is exactly how I feel. People or so-called friends don't respond to me. You are my only friend that will call me or send me a message. Starting to feel like it wouldn[t happen if it weren't for me reaching out all the time. So sad. I sent Lina a message last night asking "How are You". She read the message but no response. I am tired of being ignored all the time. Sometimes I wish I could be in heavan with my dad, aunt and uncle. No adult intteraction, very rare". I feel like I want to give up. I have equity in my name (alot). My kids could get the braces they need. They could have so much if I just wasn't here. I struggle with this all the time and really, truly which I didn't have to.
Her not coming to you is more of a reflection of herself and her own insecurities than it is on you. She obviously considers you a friend, but maybe she has trouble trusting you in a deeper level and thinks it's best to try to keep conversation with you on a more happy note. Sometimes we don't realize those in our lives who are willing to be there for us emotionally without being told directly so.
You can tell your friend, if you ever need me, call me, but don't try to make her feel guilty for not calling you. You don't want to give up, just make yourself be independent and not clingy- it always
makes people back away. You can make your life much better
by working on your relationship with your children. You don't have to be self-sacrificing, just make things a little better for them
and your life will get better.
I lost my nephew last year and, since I can't cry in front of people, I decided to vent and mourn with an online friend. This person was no help and only made me feel worse. When I complained to my roommate about it, she let me know that she was there for me and that I could come vent to her at any time.
It was a "oh! duh!" moment for me. She's been my friend for a number of years and it didn't occur to me that I could come to her instead of seeking people who were far away from me physically and emotionally. I'm sure I hurt her feelings by not coming to her first, but she didn't let on that I upset her in any way.
Sometimes you just need someone to say "It's ok. I'm here for you if you need me" because it's hard to tell, especially when you're grieving and the whole of reality seems really screwed up and nothing quite feels real anymore.
Nowadays, kids are very judgmental. They are always thinking in their minds what I am doing wrong or right.. When we were young, we never judged our parents. They were above and beyond judgement.
I hope you will be able to find some like-minded people who you can be close to. Not everybody is suitable for friendship. Just be discerning and keep looking. Whenever you want, keep in touch.