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offbalance 07/15/2015

I recently fell hard for someone. He told me that he only sees me as a friend & that I deserve someone good but that that someone is not him.

I can't let go of this hurt I feel. I had not loved anyone in years. I honestly didn't think I could actually feel again.

I've worked so hard on myself & I guess I can't understand why he rejected me. I'm not a bad person at all.

Any thoughts?

Thanks!

lynnenunya 07/26/2015

@Dchoco,
Be glad you didn't fall too hard and then he wanted your daughter.
That happened to me.
That killed any love for me. Forever. I cannot allow anyone ever again to get close to me.
I understand why some guys say they got burned good. It happens to women too.
But I'm sure, you will find someone better. Give it time.

koolman 07/27/2015

Aw, I'm sorry this dragged on 9 months. Seems the guy didn't want to hurt you outright in the beginning, so he strung you along...which hurt you...made you think there was something there when there wasn't.

Think of this as a positive. You are now free of the ensnarement of one-sided, unrequited romantic love to rebuild a loving relationship with yourself!

gustokitty 07/27/2015

I am sorry this didn't work out for you. There may not be any good reason. Please take good care of yourself.

Calebb 07/29/2015

Am confused here. This fellow went out with you nine months? -- and it has become clear he has never wanted to be anything but friends?

Odd. Is he a bit socially-inept? Or even kinda' inconsiderate?

In what I've learned so far here, for social contact he was misrepresenting himself.

better luck next time,
all the best...Caleb

minimouse23 07/30/2015

A similar thing happened to me. It took less time though but I fell for him and was rejected too. Now Im wondering what is the normal amount of time that it takes to get over liking someone so much. Anyone know?

SmilingInTheRain 07/30/2015

Hey offbalance. I am so sorry that you are going through this right now. It is always devastating when you allow yourself to feel again and then you wind up getting hurt. Still feeling hurt is a very normal reaction. Just because he wasn't into you in that way doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you. I hope that you won't give up on love. Big hugs.

montapert 07/30/2015

I dated a woman for 7 months for her to tell me she was in love with someone else. I really liked this gal. It took me 3 months of drinkin and singing "Fuck It" to get over her. But, I got over her. And you will too, in time. Just keep your chin up.

koolman 08/02/2015

There probably is no set time to "get over liking someone", but when like turns to hate, you hate them and you hate yourself for liking them, that's probably a good indicator that you're over them.

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