Ask the cops to get a restraining order. If you can't do it through the police then you may be able to do it through court. Also you can probably sue him for harassment charges and physical damage.

They said we couldn't get a restraining order because "there isn't enough threat"... and they said they can't prove he threw the brick... though it is a brick from his porch.. they just won't look into anything, they blow it all off...and I understand that people make stupid threats all the time and its no big deal...but he's ruining our property and stole our car seat.. i just fear that he's getting closer to doing something worse

In Australia that would definitely be enough for a restraining order. Must be different where you are. The only thing that springs to mind is do you have male friends or family that can sort him out? Otherwise get in contact with an women's crisis centre of some sort for advice. They are very experienced with this type of person. You could also visit the narcissist's syndrome survivor's group on DS and ask for advice. Most of them have dealt with this stuff before. Good luck.

Looney, My ex boyfriend is the only one who would be willing to help at all.. but he lives over a thousand miles away.. I can try the other two options.. Thank you

so sue the fucker...take him to small claims court....I know it does not help much but it is a reply to his daring crap....stealing is wrong...car seats do not grow on trees...they cost money

Any time you know and see he comes to your house unwanted and is told he is not wanted or to leave and will not do so ...call the cops and make continual reports on him. Make it clear in writing he is not wanted on your property or to contact you and gain the evidence to support he is violating your specific requests. Are his death threats in writing? Do not verbally talk to him and this will force him to make his threats either through mail, text message......save all this if you receive it from him and when you gather all this "evidence" charge his ass. if you have any type of video camera ...set it up . This way the cops can't say there is no evidence. Do not tell cops you are going to do something if they don't because even if it ends up you are defending yourself at any point and the evidence doesn't support it......it will not do you any good.

Charlie, he shows up around 2am-5am... I go to bed at 2, and my mom wakes up at 5...and the only time he has time to do anything is during that time frame... he calls my sisters work and he has said that if she leaves work somebody in a blue Honda will shoot her.. He also made a fake account on facebook and has sent me threatening messages.. He has one of those disposable cell phone that he used to say he was gonna kidnap my nephew....The cops said they cant do anything cause they cant prove it's him... but with the tecnology we have today, i KNOW there is some way to link it to him. We're saving up money for a video camera right now.. but money is really tight..

Your are right, the post is off topic, Im sorry for you predicament, but this is a loneliness forum, Is this a relevant place to post such a topic?
perhaps there is a site or other forums here that would be more relevant.
Im sorry to complain but i feel there is a possibility that this forum will soon lose direction.
regards.

Dave - The whole point of being OT is saying it's OT, which she did. I know that when I post an OT post I do it in a forum where I feel safe and maybe that's why she did it given that she is part of the Loneliness group. If you are going to suggest she posts elsewhere, then at least give her an option that may be more suitable...don't just throw it out there because you aren't interested in seeing it here. Last time I checked, we are here to offer support, not to make someone feel bad about where they posted a topic seeking help.

Have you talked to the Police Chief or Sheriff (if you live out of town) about this? I wouldn't just take the word of the patrolman that there is nothing they can do. If you have already contacted the Chief, contact the City Manager, Mayor and City Councilman, or call whoever represents your area in the State Senate. You might also contact a domestic violence shelter for women and explain the situation to them. They may know someone that will listen and take your problem seriously. I doubt this city wants to be after the fact for something happening they could have prevented if the cops took an interest in their job.

I found this place listed as help for domestic violence, you might call and see if they can give you some suggestions and help. They may have some connections and be more understanding of your situation. LATIMER HOUSE, 1003 Main Street, Grand Junction, CO 81501, Administrative number: (970) 241-0324 Crisis number: (970) 241-6704

So he has sent text messages threatening you and your sister? I would think you could get hard copies of those and submit them as proof. Or show them the message and the number it came from. They do have those small tape recorders, they aren't that expensive, you could tape him when he phones you, that way you have his voice and if you say who is this, he might even be dumb enough to give you his full name. Then immediately call the cops. True a cam can catch activity at night, but I think getting his voice on tape threatening one of you is far stronger evidence.

While I understand your frustration, and your right to protect yourself and others at your residence, be careful making threats of any kind yourself. Contact those people I suggested, think about getting a tape recorder and getting his threats on tape, then you will have him. Good luck, stay safe.

Also, is it possible for your sisters boss to be on the line when the jerk calls? Then you have another person that has heard his threats, and hopefully she could bait him and get him to say his name. With the number of work place shootings, I would think her employer would be wanting something done about this also. If the owners of the business are not aware of these threats, she should make them aware he is saying someone will shoot her outside their business.

You need to remember law enforcement in Colorado is nothing but complete morons. The only thing to do is leave the state and sue the police department.

Comment #11 is a good idea.
I went thru a similar thing; I complained to the police, but they didn't do much. I tried to persue a peace bond and was told "they don't exist anymore' I was fresh from a breakdown, and he just kept at it until I just felt like I couldn't take it anymore and I surrenderred my son to him. He was always able to fly beneath the radar, always had some "do-gooder" willing to help him out. Now, years later, my son believes all the tripe his dad tells him and believes I'm the Villian in this picture. Best thing I can tell you is to ALWAYS have someone else with you & your sister to witness events. Approach your local legal services agency to see if they'll help draw up papers for you & your sister or consult a lawyer to Petition the Court for you. Best Wishes.

I need to add that he dumped alot of those willing to assist him after his objectives were met. A classic user...to me and everyone else.

Thank you guys, I got a lot of advice that may help. It's very much appreciated.(: