So sorry to here this sometimes i do feel the same way at times. We need to stay strong. I even have a friend dump on me today when I needed them most so I am hurt and feel worthless. It just seems to happen when you need support the most. Katie

I'm sorry you had a bad experience. They can't do their jobs well if they
don't occasionally tell people things they don't want to hear. The flip side - they're just people, with opinions and judgements, and you could line up ten of them, and get ten different responses, then change out the status of the person seeking help, and get different input.

To avoid judgements and opinions based on things that aren't relevant - gender, income, status - online therapy would be ideal. It isn't as personal, but it sounds as if things often get too personal. If it were
not for all the money being made, I think they would have found a better
way to help people. Still, you should try other therapists to see if there's someone that you find helpful. You went for a reason, and you
might want to not give up so quickly, when your next experience could
be insightful and productive.

I am so sorry that you feel this way? How did the therapist make you feel that way? What did they say?

Sometimes therapists can be very judgemental but he's not the only one, there are others, if you feel you need to go, don't judge one bad therapist with all therapists. SEriously, I've been through 3 and I like the one I am going to now, he's very cool, he asks me questions, he doesn't judge me and he asks me questions that makes me think about my situation.

I'm sorry you feel this way, I would love to give you the name of my therapist however I wouldn't know if he would do a phone interview. But I can ask. Take Care and hugs, your not a loser with no ambition. You tried therapy that's ambition if you ask me.

Would you mind sharing what happened? I have a hard time imagining a therapist would tell you that you are a loser with no ambition. Perhaps you misunderstood.

Sometimes just sharing our deepest and darkest thoughts and fears can bring out panic and make us think we are being judged when we are not. This can particularly happen when we have been abused by people who should have taken care of us in the past. Maybe you could go back for one more session and tell the therapist how you felt. If you still feel bad after this, then maybe it was them not your fears. Good luck.

I say the same as BlueYonder. How do you know he thought such things of you? Maybe there was a miscommunication between you two. I would go back and tell him how you left the session. Its not a bad idea to go back. Im sorry you feel this way.

I have the same thoughts as Blue Yonder. You said you can't catch a break, so you already felt things were going wrong for you. We can go into something with fears and not really wanting to be there, and then try to sabotage it so we don't have to return. I went to a bad therapist and he was a jerk and even that jerk didn't call me a loser and insult me. I didn't return to him and went to another therapist who was fantastic.

And when a therapist says things that hurt you, SPEAK UP and tell them that what they said was unkind and it hurt you. You have to let it out and tell them.

I can't believe a therapist would call anyone a loser with no ambition. That is so unethical. If he felt that way he should be questioning you by asking if you are depressed and other questions. Many with no ambition could have low self esteem and depression, etc. Therapists are to help you, guide you amongst other things and not suppose to make you feel bad about yourself. I am angry that this therapist said this to you. Don't give up with one bad apple. There are many good ones out there. Keep looking until you find one you are comfortable with. hugs

No one knows you better than you know you. You know you are not a loser.

Psychologists are very hit or miss. For me, it's always been more of a miss. I've only found one I could kind of talk to. My deepest secrets are still safe within me. And maybe that's for the best because

Slowly...inch by inch...step by step...I realize that I'm not only OK, but I'm pretty dam@ned wonderful.

And so are you.

How did a very lonely wounded former anorexic bulimic bi-polar PTSD MPD girl get to feel this way?

I started with NEGATIVE THOUGHT STOPPING. IT WORKS>

Every time you start to think that you're a loser, tell yourself you refuse to believe that lie anymore. Tell yourself something true and immutable about yourself, such as "I am thoughtful", "I am intelligent", "I am witty". Keep doing this even when you don't want to. In time, you will find that you no longer think of yourself as anything but what you really are: A wonderful, unique human with lots to give.

PS My sister and two cousins are psychologists and they are NUTS....Psychiatrists, counselors, psychologists etc. are NOT omniscient. They're human and they have their own issues. And not all of them are good either.