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Not being Wanted

DDebbbie
DDebbbie
I am really struggling with not being wanted. I have felt this underlying since I was born. Been through so much counseling and anti-depressants, but it just seems to creep back. My life just seems to reinforce the belief that 'no one wants me'.

I am 49 and live alone. It's like somewhere along the way of my life I decided that no one wanted me, so I just have to take care of myself. That is what I have done most of my life, but inside I really want someone to really care about me. I long for close friendships, but have none. I am not hard to get along with, but I seem to push people away by not keeping in contact. I hate being so self absorbed, but I can't seem to escape.

I hope life after this one is better. I would really like to be in Heaven. Heaven would be a place where people love each other, are kind and there is no fear.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel you Heaven sounds alot better,but i have to belive that we are here for a reason..There is some hope in us that give us the strength to get up every morning and do it all over again..You have a friends here,and we want you to be a part of are family
Asics
Asics
As a struggling addict I feel this same way. Could it be toxic shame that makes us feel this way? Somewhere along the way I have convinced myself that MY terminal uniqueness in respects to others and life brings me back into my drug of choice. Lots of us feel the same way. The world is full of lonely people (the lonely planet?) I think only intimacy can cure this time of loneliness. And you are doing the right thing by posting messages on this board. I like quick fixes like the rest of us addicts do but it's a cheap substitue for real friends. Sorry I didn't mean to talk about my addiction it just relates so much to what you are feeling I couldn't help but see a direct correlation.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I can relate to all the posters on here with the comments of feeling unwanted and unloved. I feel that way also. I'm never invited to anything, never have any "friend requests," just pretty much get left alone, mostly only have 1 "public" or "social" event scheduled in a year, nothing else. I try reaching out but using pull back because so many people are self absorbed. I can give to them but I don't find anything back from them and it drains me. I usually then give up on them. I have found solace in this board; I hope you all will too.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If you expect, you will be disappointed. Learn to live without expectation.
Learn to give without expecting anything in return.
Learn to love by never judging or criticizing, by speaking encouraging words, be enthusiastic of other's endeavors no matter how inane they appear to you.
Learn to listen with your whole body and empathize with people.
Give your mind and your heart even if you are left in a lonely room to cry.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi Debbie, Things are the same for me.
I feel like I've always been alone and I wonder if I've brought it on myself. Much of the time I think about what couldve been and ifs and buts. Sleep is an escape for me.
I think about heaven/next life often. If it's how it was before I was born, that'll do for me.
Maybe you can find comfort in knowing that you're not alone. x
DDebbbie
DDebbbie
Thank you for your kind words.

#19 reply Strattod ~ Your beautiful words only apply if you actually have people in your life. The problem is there is no one to even practice those things on. My relationships are with the reality tv people. :) I am tired of being alone, but am so afraid of getting in an abusive or weird relationship. With God's help I will step out...or not. :)