Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
Hi!
I'm fairly new here, but have written a few things in the Addison's, Caregivers, and this group.
As I've said before, I'm 61, long since divorced, my dog died, daughter moved cross country, and I care for my elderly father. I suffer from Addison's, which makes it hard to get out and meet people. I cannot handle warmth (heat) and at times I am very weak. I also have mold hyper-sensitivities. Whew!
Anyway, I have a great online friend, but she, like my sister and so many others, say they care, and ask about me, but when I 'go too far', in describing a problem that they don't want to hear, they back away.
I think I am aware enough, not to be a complainer, because I know how tiresome that can be for people. YET, I am soooo lonely! I feel that I have NO ONE, whom I can let my hair down, and reallee tell what is happening in my life. My good online friend has a great job now, is working out, and tells me I only need to work out and get out of the house, to heal myself! People are supportive to a point...and then, you have to be quiet and keep your 'heavy' miseries to yourself. My doctors don't even want to hear how much I physically suffer, in the warm months, or from mold!
I used to be able to share more with my daughter, but she's so busy, now. Don't get me wrong, I can be witty and a lot of fun, as well! But when I really need someone, I just have to hug myself. Have any of you found this to be true?
I'm fairly new here, but have written a few things in the Addison's, Caregivers, and this group.
As I've said before, I'm 61, long since divorced, my dog died, daughter moved cross country, and I care for my elderly father. I suffer from Addison's, which makes it hard to get out and meet people. I cannot handle warmth (heat) and at times I am very weak. I also have mold hyper-sensitivities. Whew!
Anyway, I have a great online friend, but she, like my sister and so many others, say they care, and ask about me, but when I 'go too far', in describing a problem that they don't want to hear, they back away.
I think I am aware enough, not to be a complainer, because I know how tiresome that can be for people. YET, I am soooo lonely! I feel that I have NO ONE, whom I can let my hair down, and reallee tell what is happening in my life. My good online friend has a great job now, is working out, and tells me I only need to work out and get out of the house, to heal myself! People are supportive to a point...and then, you have to be quiet and keep your 'heavy' miseries to yourself. My doctors don't even want to hear how much I physically suffer, in the warm months, or from mold!
I used to be able to share more with my daughter, but she's so busy, now. Don't get me wrong, I can be witty and a lot of fun, as well! But when I really need someone, I just have to hug myself. Have any of you found this to be true?
i can completely understand how you feel. i'm 45 and don't have any close people or friends to share with. i feel i burden my oldest sister with the numerous family issues we have. she politely listens, but rarely shares or opens up. i think i exhaust her. it's just that i soo long for true, meaningful relationships! i too can be fun and lighthearted, it's just sometimes i want to talk about 'real' issues. ugh.
this site has a been a Godsend. my virtual friends here are terrific, supportive, wonderful and understanding. it's really helped me to be this way more in the real world, and has helped me with some of the many issues i have.
would you consider getting another dog or a cat?
i know it's not the answer, but they do make wonderful companions.
i'd have more cats if it was socially acceptable with my family. i have 3 persians who bring me so much happiness.
keep posting. i belong to many support groups here.
glad you're here.
meadow
We have to understand that everyone has different levels of tolerance, empathy, and patience. They may be having their own problems that they're dealing with that they might not care to mention. Some are affected by others' moods (that's how I am) and maybe don't want to be brought down. Some just don't plain understand or know how to respond, unless they've been through the same thing. It's not that other people don't care, it's just that not everyone has the strength that we might be expecting or needing.
There's a lot of people here that are understanding and patient, so feel free to let it all out whenever you need to here, Judith. Don't ever feel you need to hold back here. :)
A lot of us here are better at fixing someone else's problems and not our own. We are always read to try to help.