Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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wildflowers44
wildflowers44
I didn't realize there was a group for loneliness on this site, but I am very happy to find it.

I'm a college student and much of my life, especially since early adolescence, have felt very lonely. In many ways, I have felt I do not belong on this earth.

I don't have any friends. I am a senior in college and have not made one friend during that time. I've had social anxiety since adolescence and get very nervous around people. Even walking around campus is difficult - I feel like everyone is looking at me and thinking I am stupid.

I am close with my mom and sisters, but lately, have felt distant from them, too. I have OCD and usually they end up becoming frustrated with me and my worries. I am also very depressed, and usually isolate myself.

I long to be close to people and to give and receive love. I just feel very unloved and alone.

Thank you for reading.
lucillegem
lucillegem
hey there! and welcome to the group
feel free to msg me if you ever need anyone to talk to :)
hope you have a good rest of the week
scoobydoobydoo
scoobydoobydoo
I heard something once, wish I could remember who said it, but I can tell you as an older person it's true, even though it's kind of a joke:

Up into your 20's, you worry about what everybody else thinks about you.
In your 30's, you start telling yourself you don't care what everybody else thinks about you.
In your 40's-50-s, you realize everybody else wasn't thinking about you after all!

Point is, you're not so different and certainly not inferior to anybody else
billwfriend
billwfriend
welcome to our corner of the internet....some here have similar situations to you so you are not alone here....I am quite different no social anxiety and/or ocd but I feel alone more than half my life too because I was not able to really have long meaningful relationships with the women that I fell in love with....I guess either I ruined the relationships or my drinking drugging did but I am still feeling those repercussions after 20+ yrs sober now....I am alot older now but wiser? not really...hugs bill
windydays
windydays
Hello and welcome! I have social anxiety too.and have passed it on to my kids who are also in college struggling to make friends...hang in there...keep trying..
lostsoul72
lostsoul72
Hello and WELCOME! You are not alone in your feeling as I felt that way most of my life also. I have learned that most times people DO NOT look as harshly at us as we do. We are our own worst critics. I challenge you to find one thing every day that is good about you and keep telling yourself that you can do this. You said you are a senior ! You should be proud of that fact. Many people do not go to college let alone make it as far as you have.

I went to a trade school out of high school and received my ASAS degree. I have been trying to get my Bachelors since 2005 by taking online classes, but I lose motivation to do it or a life changing event has happened and made me stop.

I applaud you for getting this far. If you need to talk I am around often. :)
Edger
Edger
Have you gone to the counseling department at your college? They might help you. I was extremely shy all my life and depressed at times. Got started with therapist at college. Then referred to outside therapist. It helped. You need therapy for your OCD and maybe pills. My husband used to get frustrated with me. It's because he has no idea what it's like to feel like you do.

Barbara
wildflowers44
wildflowers44
Thank you, everyone, for the warm welcome, and thank you for sharing a bit about yourselves. It sounds like everyone has a unique story, yet we are all a lot alike at the same time. I hate to know there are others out there feeling lonely as I am, but I am happy we have gathered here together on this little corner of the internet.

If anyone ever wants to chat, I'm on here often. Thank you again for the welcome.
gramybear
gramybear
A very warm welcome!! You have come to a wonderful place!!! Hugs
getfuzzy
getfuzzy
Wildflowers, first off...welcome to DS. Although it has been many years since I was in college, I know exactly how you feel. In both high school and college, I never made any close friends. I did well in school. Spent a lot of time studying. In high school I was active in athletics...so I wasn't just a shut-in, but at the same time very alone.

To curb my desire for giving love and support to people, I used to do a lot of volunteer work in college...going to migrant camps...visiting people in hospitals/nursing home...working with the visually impaired, etc. So even though I was alone, I Just got so much joy and happiness by helping others. Maybe that is a calling and desire you have? If so, maybe there are some activities at your college that would give you an opportunity to volunteer?

I would be happy to be your DS friend. I know it isn't the same as having someone right there with you at college, but feel free to message me if you ever need someone to talk too. In the meantime, I hope your studies are going well, that you are enjoying your classes, and that you are majoring in something that you have a great passion for.
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