Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
Hi everyone,
I am not new to Daily Strength, I actually belong to another support group on here, but I am new to the loneliness support group. I was hoping to tell my story, and to hear all of yours, and to get advice on how to handle things. I hope I can offer you some advice, too.
I'm in my early thirties, married for almost 10 years, and have children. I feel as if my husband doesn't love me anymore. He says he does, but those are just words coming out of his mouth. I don't FEEL that he loves me. He doesn't communicate with me, he doesn't show me any affection, he spends most of his time on the computer, watching tv, or playing video games, and it's very frustrating. I definitely think that everyone is entitled to their own free space and time. But we don't spend any time together. I just feel that he could care less. I'm not a priority of his. I lay in bed and cry a lot, alone, and it hurts. I never get told I am beautiful, pretty, anything. I have intitated things between the two of us (I have written him love notes and hidden them around the house for him to find, etc.) but he doesn't reciprocate or try to do anything nice for me. Basically, I feel that I am trying everything I can to make our marriage better, but I can't do this alone. And without my husband, I feel so lonely. He's supposed to be my best friend, and he's not. I am not perfect, I can be moody, and I'm sure there's other things about myself that my husband doesn't like. But he doesn't tell me what those are. How can I make things better if he doesn't tell me what's bothering him?
Sorry to ramble on.. I feel better being able to vent. Goodnight.
I am not new to Daily Strength, I actually belong to another support group on here, but I am new to the loneliness support group. I was hoping to tell my story, and to hear all of yours, and to get advice on how to handle things. I hope I can offer you some advice, too.
I'm in my early thirties, married for almost 10 years, and have children. I feel as if my husband doesn't love me anymore. He says he does, but those are just words coming out of his mouth. I don't FEEL that he loves me. He doesn't communicate with me, he doesn't show me any affection, he spends most of his time on the computer, watching tv, or playing video games, and it's very frustrating. I definitely think that everyone is entitled to their own free space and time. But we don't spend any time together. I just feel that he could care less. I'm not a priority of his. I lay in bed and cry a lot, alone, and it hurts. I never get told I am beautiful, pretty, anything. I have intitated things between the two of us (I have written him love notes and hidden them around the house for him to find, etc.) but he doesn't reciprocate or try to do anything nice for me. Basically, I feel that I am trying everything I can to make our marriage better, but I can't do this alone. And without my husband, I feel so lonely. He's supposed to be my best friend, and he's not. I am not perfect, I can be moody, and I'm sure there's other things about myself that my husband doesn't like. But he doesn't tell me what those are. How can I make things better if he doesn't tell me what's bothering him?
Sorry to ramble on.. I feel better being able to vent. Goodnight.
Have you been able to ask your husband what he'd like in the marriage? Maybe plan some date nights? I think a lot of people get in a rut in their marriage and take the other for granted. Maybe your husband really does love you, but he's taking you for granted? Wonder if he'd be open to couple's counseling.
Have you ever read the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"? It might help out also. It talks about how to talk to men so that they will hear us. If he could read the book, it could help him, as well in talking your language to you! We are so different us men and women!
Sending you a hug!