Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
About 3 months ago, a friend of mine that invited me to do things with him alot, let's call him Vince, had a fight with his girlfriend due to his girlfriend wanting to see other people. As a result, they decided to have an open relationship, and Vince only spent time with her and forgot about spending time with me and other friends.
About 2 months ago, in an effort to fight off my depression and loneliness, I decided to tell a girl that I've been interested in for a while, let's call her Kat, my true feelings for her. For a certain reason, Vince was opposed to me starting a relationship with Kat. Well, Kat didn't want a relationship anyway. I kept messaging her because I'm an awkward and in love asshole. That caused both Kat and Vince to stop talking to me for a while.
A day after Christmas, I apologized to Kat for how I've been treating her. She accepted my apology, and we are now talking as friends again, as long as I don't push the friendship. She just doesn't want a relationship right now. We are talking a little bit every day, and I really enjoy talking to her.
The problem is and has always been my feelings. I feel like I need to talk to Kat alot more than she needs to talk to me. She says that she is busy alot, but she is often just hanging out with her friends. She says that she is only interested in important things and doesn't want affection right now.
I was feeling pretty upset that Vince still wasn't talking to me. He went to hang out with other people and still wasn't inviting me to stuff. He blocked me on his blog. I didn't know what to say to him, so I decided to cut him off. I didn't want to put forth the effort to regain a friendship with someone who no longer respected me.
I set up hanging out with a few of my friends (other than Vince or Kat) yesterday. It was the first time I hung out with anyone for months. Well someone invited Vince without my knowledge. We all got along fine, and we just played video games. I actually felt pretty bad afterward because we didn't discuss ANYTHING but the games, and I had to leave somewhat early, and no one said goodbye to me.
This morning I decided to bite the bullet and tell Vince that I want to be his friend again, but I want his respect too. I told him that I apologized to Kat, and we are friends again. He doesn't seem mad at me anymore, but I sent him another friend request on Facebook, and he didn't accept it. He didn't unblock me on his blog either.
I'm just tired of feeling like I need other people more than people need me. I want to improve myself and be more interesting, but I am so lonely most of the time.
About 2 months ago, in an effort to fight off my depression and loneliness, I decided to tell a girl that I've been interested in for a while, let's call her Kat, my true feelings for her. For a certain reason, Vince was opposed to me starting a relationship with Kat. Well, Kat didn't want a relationship anyway. I kept messaging her because I'm an awkward and in love asshole. That caused both Kat and Vince to stop talking to me for a while.
A day after Christmas, I apologized to Kat for how I've been treating her. She accepted my apology, and we are now talking as friends again, as long as I don't push the friendship. She just doesn't want a relationship right now. We are talking a little bit every day, and I really enjoy talking to her.
The problem is and has always been my feelings. I feel like I need to talk to Kat alot more than she needs to talk to me. She says that she is busy alot, but she is often just hanging out with her friends. She says that she is only interested in important things and doesn't want affection right now.
I was feeling pretty upset that Vince still wasn't talking to me. He went to hang out with other people and still wasn't inviting me to stuff. He blocked me on his blog. I didn't know what to say to him, so I decided to cut him off. I didn't want to put forth the effort to regain a friendship with someone who no longer respected me.
I set up hanging out with a few of my friends (other than Vince or Kat) yesterday. It was the first time I hung out with anyone for months. Well someone invited Vince without my knowledge. We all got along fine, and we just played video games. I actually felt pretty bad afterward because we didn't discuss ANYTHING but the games, and I had to leave somewhat early, and no one said goodbye to me.
This morning I decided to bite the bullet and tell Vince that I want to be his friend again, but I want his respect too. I told him that I apologized to Kat, and we are friends again. He doesn't seem mad at me anymore, but I sent him another friend request on Facebook, and he didn't accept it. He didn't unblock me on his blog either.
I'm just tired of feeling like I need other people more than people need me. I want to improve myself and be more interesting, but I am so lonely most of the time.
You sound obsessed with these people, sorry to say. That's probably why they are shying away from you in the way in which they are. I can speak from experience when I say I've had co-dependency issues, which is what it appears you have going on here.
You need to find something to keep your mind busy, so you don't dwell on why people are or aren't giving you the attention you desire. I struggle with anxiety, shyness, and situational depression too, but still manage to find ways to keep myself busy, even without a large circle of friends.
Don't let others have the power to control your happiness or your sadness. Try not to take it personally when someone doesn't respond or reach out to you like you hope, they probably aren't doing it intentionally, they just don't see it the same way you do.
And even if they could try harder, like you feel you're trying, is it worth the anxiety to worry about? It's not for me, but I know the struggle is real.
I wish you the best of luck!
People don't like it when you force yourself upon them, people like to feel that they are in control, and thus that they choose you when they want interaction from you. I know that sounds horrible, but thats how many people are. In time you will learn the skill of not overstaying your welcome.
Don't feel too bad over this hun, there are plenty of fish in the sea to make friends with. Stay strong, and never forget to love yourself, because you are one beautiful and amazing person. Hugg yourself, you know what I say is true, so chin up hun, and don't feel blue. :)
I am still talking alot with Kat, and she has been nicer and more flirty with me. It might turn into a relationship soon. She still seems to not want to talk to me when she is busy, but that is understandable. I was the same way in school with my crushes. We have to hold our emotions so we can focus on what's in front of us.
Tonight I hung out with Vince and our mutual friends and we all had a good time. He accepted my friend request on facebook. Vince's stepfather just died recently from a blood clot in his lung. I guess he realizes this whole thing was kind of petty.
I was also friends with Kat's brother, not close friends, but I hung out with him alot. I've been trying to get him to hang out with us again (I haven't seen or talked to him in like 9 months), but he usually says he has errands to do or something. I'll just give it time I suppose like these other relationships.