I understand. Sorry u r going thru the love pain. Some people can get past a break up, and others it takes years to get over. I woulod say just feel the pain, cry it out and let her go.

God did not do it to you - she did for reasons that are hers.
You are in shock and it will take months for the shock to wear off.
In the office, you are civility itself, the very model of decorum. You are the serene swan on a fast-flowing river: calm above water, peddling furiously underwater.
When you have an opportunity, tell her that you forgive, that you accept what she has done, that you release her from her guilt over what she did to you (she is probably hurting, too).
Since you are in shock, address your lifestyle. Review your diet, focusing on healthy foods and plenty of water. Eat chocolate every day, exercise (for the endorphins), and masturbate as often as you can. The chocolate and the 'exercise' helps keep you balanced. Consider including a daily dose of Omega-3 fish oil tablets.
Save yourself some money: don't join an online dating site to show her that you don't need her and that you can live without her. Join a meetup that does the things that you like.
Time is your friend but you've just had a tooth pulled without anaesthetic and it is going to hurt for a while.
Start a journal; writing is great catharsis.
Check in with us here and be ready to help the next person that comes here needing love, confort, and understanding.

Thanks for the replies...

Hope God shows the right path....

Most of us have all been there. The best thing you should do is put on a happy face and act confident. This is a time to grow and improve yourself. Exercise, read, take a class, just get out there and once you find happiness with your self accomplishments others will be drawn to you. And in that time you will forget about her and find someone who is a much better match for you.
Keep your chin up.

I am sorry for your pain also. I too have been through a lot of pain when it comes to relationships. Everytime that I get over one, which takes a lot of time, and I get into another one, I end up getting hurt ... again.. sometimes I wonder if it's best just not to be in one. I seem to have a hard time that in that department. Now my eyes are wide open.
but the pain is still there, and you will move on. When people tell you ..get over it..etc.. don't listen. You need your time how ever long it takes, for you to deal with it. My LDR ended us , months ago, and I too am trying to deal with it. He just goes on like nothing happened. Like I meant nothing to him. It hurts, but I know I am a better person than he. I wouldn't have done that to him.

so I guess we just need to take our time to heal. That's what they all say.. Hang in there, This is a great place for support.

Nobody likes getting dumped. It sucks.
It will take time to move on.
Focus a bit more on you, if you can. And even though you say you don't have any other job choices....i would look anyway. You never knows what comes your way.

And strattod - i like your style

I'm in the same situation. I met my ex on the job and now that we have broken up we see each other everyday at work. We work on the same team and he sits three seats behind me. He been walking a females to her car every night ant the end of their shift and they've been having lunch dates. That female was suppose to be my freiend. I never imagined that he'd hurt me in such a way. I had to take a leave of absence from work because I was so depressed .passing the two of them leaving together for lunch was hard because I felt like she had taken my place.

I've been in a very similar situation (was engaged to a guy when I was 24 -worked at the same company -he left me for my friend who worked there).

The biggest mistake I made at the time was leaving the company quickly -I took a horrible job and it sort of ruined my career for a while.

I know this is a horrible time right now. I would suggest getting counseling immediately to work through this and to keep yourself extremely busy -perhaps taking on a 2nd job in the evening to keep yourself occupied.

For me, the key was to let go and to decide that I deserved to be with someone that wanted to be with me. If this girl has chosen the other man, there is just nothing you can do. Take time to grieve, but in the end wish her well and know that your life has a plan.

My plan took longer in life, but I finally got married in my late 30's and have a sweet little boy. I've been through two engagements prior to meeting my husband and know the desperation that heart break can bring. Please feel free to call on me for help during this time. I will be thinking (and praying -hope that is ok) for you.

PS One other thing that really helps -join a gym and get really into working out. It can do wonders for your mind and bod at this time :)

@Trese,
Buy in a box of Kleenex and take it to the office. That girl is going to need your tissues and your support soon.

good one. strattod

When bad things happen, try to learn from them. (Sometimes you really gotta grasp for a lesson I know!) But in this case, it sounds like you learned that you have the ability to love. Now your goal should be to find someone who is worthy of your love. Sorry, but it doesn't sound like this chick was the lucky one. Keep looking!