Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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gettingitstraight
gettingitstraight
so i have been back on this site for a while and i still dont know why i feel this way or why i dont feel this way more often. i know that i will get critiqued for what i am about to write, so if you want to post negativity save it.

i came back on here for alot of reasons one of which is dealing with my daughter. but i have alot of my own. and feeling lonely constantly is one of them, and i have found that my one fear of people in real time is the same as being online. i again am being judged for things that are wrong.

i have been unfriended by several people in the past week, i dont know why.. i have done nothing wrong, i am not disrespectful i dont try and manipulate conversations i try and help everyone, and yet, bang no more friends, i know its the internet and i know we all have our own issues. but i see friends complain about how some people are on here, and they remeain friends with them, and me drop of a hat i am sent packing so that makes me feel even lonelier. i havce no real friends i have acquaitences but thats it and now my list is diminishing online and i dont know why
PinterestFan
PinterestFan
I see people talk about being judged a lot here, but most people seem to have no problem at all with being labelled, as long as it's done by therapists who went to college for several years, are
schooled in a "soft" science, and SEEM to know what they're talking about and what they're doing.

When it comes to children, unless they are a danger to themselves or others, I think it is very harmful for anyone to label them. I have a relative who would have been so much better off if his mother wasn't constantly explaining his "condition" to other people, hovering over him every second (he's eleven) and not letting him take a breath without her interpretation. He probably would have been just fine had she not saught help for his problem and gave him enough space to walk across a room without her explaining to people how his emotional disease is the reason for his every act.

Help is the sunny side of control. Sometimes, steppiing off is the absolute best thing someone can do for their child. Positively.

I hope things improve for you and your daughter.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Honestly, you should stop beating yourself up because this is not your fault. The purpose of this website to have a place where people can come to share their stories and connect with others in a positive manner. This isn't Facebook so I don't understand why people feel the need to 'unfriend' each other and critique each other's posts. It's very immature and counterintuitive to what this site is about. If I was you, I wouldn't pay any attention to those people because are plenty of other people on this site who do care about what you have to say and who would like to be your friend.
P00hbear
P00hbear
I think your posts seem helpful and thoughtful. Not sure why that's happening....it's hard to tell sometimes, like you said in real life and on-line, why some people connect and others do not. It's an issue I am struggling with right now, a very real one so I sympathize, but just do your best not to compare and try and figure it out, there is no explanation, I do hope you can find new friends along with the support and encouragement this group should bring.
deleted_user
deleted_user
People abandon/ leave me too. I'm not able to understand that. You're not alone in this.
Icing
Icing
I remove those that are barely ever around, or have nothing to say to me. So I just kinda clean up, but I don't hate anybody. Could be bad chemistry as well, but I don't blame them for that.

Some I haven't seen for several weeks to months. Bothers me to have them in my list. Even if we had a lot to talk about.