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Making Excuses

mas5707
mas5707
Sometimes when I'm feeling really alone, I create not real excuses in my mind for why I'm feeling this way, also for why I actually am. Some are like being a drug addict or losing a family member tragically. I know they are pretty extreme and no, nothing that tragic or extreme has happened to me. I could never imagine saying these to someone who asks me why I'm so lonely. Of course I can always go to a therapist to find out what IS the actual reason. Who knows, at the rate I'm going, I may end of doing this.
Has anyone else experienced this? How do you deal with it?
Justonekitty
Justonekitty
My husband had urged me to make girl friends. My excuse it that I don't want any friends because girls are terrible friends. I don't want to deal with the shit. I tell him I'm happy the way I am, not true. I really wish I had a real friend. I have tried but it doesn't work. I'm not going to say I'm a failure at making friends.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If you tell yourself that you don't want something - its easier to cope with when you don't get it.

I think the most common "not real excuse" people tell themselves is that: "X happened because I suck/am unworthy/am a loser" Its easy to blame ourselves when not everything is actually our fault.

In my opinion, its natural to want to find reasons/excuses for things. Especially for feelings that are a bit ambiguous and don't seem reasonable. We want to know why things are the way they are.... even if that means coming up with some bizarre reasons.