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Lost a friend

akacountrygirl
akacountrygirl
I recently, last summer, lost of friend of over 40 years because she can not deal with my depression, and because I am on disability and because I can still walk she thinks I am ok. I told her I told her I got disability due to mental illness not physical.

There were some other things that happened on both our parts that weren't good. But she has a big beautiful home now with an inground pool and it's almost like she doesn't want to associate with me cause I am still poor.

We struggled out whole lives together mind you. Ran away together when we were teenagers. Always had each others back....no matter what.

She had a big party that I helped prepare and set up. Lots of people were there and I had a few napkins. Well, I gave them away and got up and walked a ways and got more. Everyone was asking me for my napkins and I flat out told them no. "Get up and get your own". Well, one of her guests said I was rude. So she got mad at me for that.

Believe me it hurts so bad. I just cry when I think about it. How can someone who has always been so flexible and non judgmental turn into this.
I am hurt and lonely big time.
Does money change people that much?
annettearizona
annettearizona
SOme people not being able to comprehend someone elses illiness just stands further and further away because of not being able to do anything or understandit..
To be honest.the way you said you responded when asked for napkins-was a little rude...but with your illiness-others may not realize that was why you responded that way.
Maybe stating your dr(s) names and meds names-will give an example that you do have an illiness and that illiness is behind a lot of your actions/reactions..
billwfriend
billwfriend
money does make people think they are privileged and can make them total assholes....but not everyone is that way....but lack of money that is a thing that we suffer with because it means we are not able to do the same stuff others can....I have not gone on vacation in over ten years now....but I do not work full time either.....so? I am on mental health disability too....
PinterestFan
PinterestFan
I'm sorry that you lost your friend. If she had been going to end the friendship over the new house, it would have happened before you were a guest, among her other friends. If you had said, "There's plenty of napkins on the table - I'm going to need these," you could have made the same point without embarrassing anyone. It's possible that she had given people the impression that you were
there to help out -- you never know what someone has told people,
and it's odd and childlike that adults would walk over and ask you
for your napkins.

Mental illness or not, when you're rude, you should apologize. You don't have to go into your personal medical history with anyone.

Even if the friendship is lost, I would send a letter or e-mail to her,
apologizing, and wish her well. It will help you.

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"It's sad when the people who gave you the best memories, become a memory."
gramybear
gramybear
Yes, money can change people, unfortunately. Don't take it as a personal insult to you. I am sure you are not the only one being treated with such disrespect. I am truly sorry that someone you confided in, loved, and cared about, turned out to let money overrule friendship. Hugs Gramybear
survivor301
survivor301
Not everybody is that way when money comes their way. But it sure changes some. Today. I'm 59 the money is the big issue and people are defined with adverbs that define a stereotype. Now people are looking for those who are financially independent ...or at least are successful in their professional lives. They don't want a person like me who is on welfare. We are all but parasites to them and are just waiting around for their partner to come home. So much for being viewed as human beings. I no way want to move in with anybody right now, nor let that person be my only source of fulfillment. So I don't compete with those who are into people with money. It is very painful when money is what tears a friendship apart. It is painful when ANYTHING tears a friendship apart.
MayB
MayB
So sorry to hear you lost your friend..... ((((Hugs))) for that.

Sometimes people suffer from "Topedos in the front yard syndrome"

All of this hits just a little too close to home! Rather than admit it it's just easier to shame and blame the cause of the discomfort ( that would be you.)

Do you really need someone who is in denial in your life? Be kind from a distance and take care of you!
akacountrygirl
akacountrygirl
Thank you to all who replied.
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