Hi Ann,
I am now after over a year, getting used to DS. I didn't know I could read the journals. So please know that there are people like me who just are not internet/support group savvy but I am learning.

If you ever need to vent, please feel free to send me a message anytime. I usually turn on the computer at least once a day.

Hugs.

your profile is set to friends only and private...so I could not read any journals you wrote....

if you want more friends to see things you write you should not make profile private...it lets more people see things that might allow them to become buddys

I just wish there was some way to know when our friends have written in their journal! I am going to go to yours right now and reply. I am so sorry you are hurting so badly and needed someone there for you. You are very important to us. Lots of Hugs GB

Hi honey. I just read your journal and replied to it. I am so sorry you were so frightened and needed someone to talk to. Please pmessage me any time I am on DS and we can talk. I use to have a horrific nightmare when I was a child. I had the same nightmare every year, at the same time, and I have never forgotten it. Nightmares are so real. With much love and many gentle hugs. GB

So sorry your friends haven't read your journals when you needed support. Some friends do read and don't know what to say or don't see that you posted a journal unless they catch you at the time after journal writing when clicking HOME PAGE. If you want others to read your journals you do need to have your profile open like Bill said. Now if private only friends not others can only read your journals. Hugs

thank you everyone and I didn't mean to offend anyone. I know I am set to private and I should consider it being open. I wasn't saying that I expected you guys to respond, I was simply feeling down and alone. you all have helped me though and I thank you. gb, the nightmares are so frightening and I am very sorry you have the same awful dream every year. hugs to all

Hello Ann We do not know each other. I only got your name from the other entry's here. I just wanted to say you are not alone. Ans there is nothing wrong with asking for help when you are down. I tend to isolate when I get down. Even though I know it is better for me to talk to people. I think it is always better to get things out of our head and in the open. To look at things in the light. To me when I do. They are not as bad as I think they are. I hope you are doing better today. Take care

Ann ~ We're not friends so I can't see your journal entries so just want to mention this. I have noticed in the Chronic Fatigue group where I'm more active that often people do set their journal entries to "Friends Only" as there's personal things that they don't necessarily want to share with just anyone.

What I've seen them do is change their DS status message (where the smiley face is) to write in there "Wrote New Journal Entry August 23rd ~ please comment" so if friends see their status message it alerts them to go over and read the new journal entry and write some responses.

Perhaps try that to see if it might encourage your friends to give you more support when you need it. Really glad that you wrote the discussion post here ~ it was the right thing to do to get attention and connect when you needed to hear from some folks who understand.

thank you both for responding and for the support. I have taken advice on changing my profile setting, though as you said it does scare me a bit. I like the idea about writing journal entry please read, though I don't want to think I am forcing someone. yesterday was better but I used my lonilness and put it into physical exercise, way to much I might add. I am also in the eating disorders group and have anorexia, slowly recovering. exercise is a friend to me, it releases stress and tension. I do outside work mainly and walk. the lonliness is so real and I see my mother at age 87 with no friends and my dad at 91 with many, he has always been a social person. I am very shy in the beginning then I will open up. thanks again everyone for the advice.

I"m sorry you aren't getting the responses you should be-that is what this forum is about-being here for each other

annetetear, thanks, I was preventing others to comment and support by being private, to much thinking like it is like FB. I have changed my profile setting so I think things will change. this group is very supportive and I thank everyone

Hi honey. Are you doing any better? How are the dreams lately? I really hope you are doing better and the nightmares have subsided. We are here to support you. Please don't EVER think people here don't care, because they do!! Love and Hugs GB

thanks gb, no nightmares the past few days just very troubling times with my son, he was 30 yesterday and is stopping by tonight with a demand to eat early, i have a very busy day f work, and he doesn't care, says just make spaghetti and meatballs and sucker me i am doing that. he scares me in a way, not violent at all but verbally can be nasty and you cant talk to him about ab=nything that isn't just normal stuff. it is like waling on eggshells. so i do and hate myself for it. oh welllll

Please don't say 'oh well".. You are important and you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. He needs boundaries set by you and he needs to see that you are not going to be a whipping board for him, nor are you going to be disrespected, especially in your own home. Stand up to him and let him know you are not going to be treated like he treats you. If he was physically abusive,I would be worried, but since he is emotionally abusive, then I know how important it is to draw the line and set boundaries. One other thing! Do NOT ever apologize for sharing how your're feeling. You are NOT a bother. You are important, admired, and deserve respect and kindness. Hugs GB