Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Lonely again

nt4
nt4

I'm breaking up with my partner whom I have lived for 2 years. We have had a number of fights that revealed very nasty sides of us. Breaking up is a right thing to do but i have difficulty coping with the idea of being lonely again. I'm 54, never married. I live in a foreign country far from my family. I don't have many friends. I usually work a lot and do exercise on my own (swimming, running, yoga, weights). I don't have many opportunities to interact with others. My partner has been the only person I have. He is moving out in 2 months. 

GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
How long have you been together? Is counseling a possibility? Good for you for working out. I recently watched an interview of Dr. Daniel Amen by Tom Ferry. It was 2 hours long. I watched it twice. One story that he told was about a couple on the brink of divorce. The husband was being a real asshole. Dr. Amen determined that his job was causing him to act out because of the toxins (I think) that were affecting his brain. The doctor is amazing. Have either of you had head trauma? Wouldn't it be wonderful to save the relationship?
urbangardener
urbangardener
Welcome to this forum nt4. Of course, there are times we all feel lonely and some people live this every day. Others never feel lonely. I think it is both a state of mind in how we think and label our lives as well as how we act in working to have a good life or choosing not to. Transition time periods can be extremely good for us. Or we can see them as terrible and moan and groan and make them useless. As long as we call it being lonely again, we will be lonely. If we call it something more positive, like the freedom to discover who I am and what I want out of life, then we won't be lonely much. Every human has times of feeling lonely or alone. You may be calling "alone" as "lonely" when it certainly doesn't have to be lonely. This is your time to rediscover yourself and what you want in life. You can waste this time or you can use it wisely. Give yourself two years to start to create a new life with friends, social groups, exercise or yoga classes, church meetings or classes, art classes, book clubs, volunteering, and on and on. Also spend some time on here responding to others as that will take your mind off of yourself by giving support to others. Again, welcome to this forum and I wish you the best.
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
Try Meetup.com There are dating groups.
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