Hi I feel the same way. And I've experienced the same things you have in different Arenas. It all seems to be the same.

Very sad Lily! It seems that kids struggle with bullying and acceptance but this does not go away when you become an adult! What do you do when you feel like that?

I wish I knew. Try to stay away from people like that as much as possible. Sometimes speaking up against them and calling them out on their behavior helps but that's something you have to judge for yourself whether or not that's the best thing to do.

I find the same things. Everyone wants to tell you their problems but they don't want to hear yours. I guess that is why there are therapists. And when you do open up to people, you become vulnerable and they judge you and talk behind your back. That is why there re so many lonely people.

I've been in this situation also. In the end, I left my job just to avoid the bullies at work. It shouldn't have been that way, but once I removed myself from the situation, I feel much better. Just stay away from people who judge, and don't open up to people as much. I used to talk to everyone. I learned my lessons. No more. Yes I am lonely, and I deal with it by keeping busy. I've learned to be lonely, it's okay, I don't care what other people think anymore.

Reading these posts made me feel better. You all are saying things I have been feeling and felt no one else felt the same way. In my case I’m always the o e helping and no one is there when I need help. So I stopped. I stopped helping those who never spoke to me unless they needed some thing. My car, my money, my time, and my heart. All things I gave freely and willingly because I thought it was for a friendship. But alas is was all for not. In my time of need they are all too busy to chat or tell me those lovely things like: suck it up you’ll be fine, or you just have to let it go and move on, or other annoying thing. If I was able to suck it up and move on I would do it alone. Does that even make sense.

Gradually because of medical issues I have become really isolated. I have also experienced many losses for various reasons. So when I feel alone, lonely and isolated I often come here to post. I wish that there was a way that we could talk
vs. posting. I think that we need real social connection to reduce loneliness.
We are all good people and worthwhile even though the world can be a cruel place.
Hope that we can connect more somehow. Feel free to message me. Right now I am having many medical problems which have contributed to my isolation.
Like you, I have been there for so many in the past, but it's sad how people forget or go away. I get teary when I think of happier times in my life and hope that things will get better. Does DS allow members to connect by phone?

Thank you all for your messages! It helped me feel better, or that I am not alone!
What happened is I have my best friends from college but they are in Brasil where I grew up. After 20 years we are still friends but I feel like we are losing connection as time goes on. Here in US is hard... I work with nice people but we don’t hang out in the weekends. Sorry I am not being racitst but I feel like if you are not blond people don’t have much interest on you! I am not blond and foreign, different culture, with a husband 15 years older than me! That does not help find and keep friendship . Brazilians don’t want to speek English when they get together and my husband is from here, speaks little Portuguese.
But I guess I am lucky to have a husband and my teens boys and a job! I guess we have to thank and always look at the bright side. I just wish I had one best friend here that I could talk freely with no filter!
Jenny, send a message to me about your health maybe I can help you some! I am in the natural approach to health field!
Thank you all again!
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