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Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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karanhere
karanhere
Hi guys...Hope you all doing well and are healthy.

I want to share something with you all that I have felt most of my life but from the past couple of years it has gone really strong and is making me very negative to a point where I feel so hopeless and helpless.

Any group I have been whether friends,work,social work I end up feeling left out and alone.I see people around who support each other,take stand for each other,but I feel no one has ever taken my side or has taken a stand for me.I feel like a pile on and pushover all the time.I can expect that from others but now I get that feeling from my family and so called friends.

Even my girlfriend doesn't stand up for me when I desperately need that feeling of security that there is someone who is by my side no matter what.

Am I asking too much if I wanna feel secure.

At work if people would need to chose side between me and someone else they would always go for the other option.Even my close friends whom I have trusted have hurt me.And now its like my guard is always up as I don't wanna get hurt.Because if something like this happens then I feel so shitty and helpless.I feel so unworthy of love and care and feel I don't belong anywhere.

I got up this morning with a headache coz of all these thoughts going round my head.I really don't know what's the way out but its getting really painful.

If anyone has a word of advice please share it with me..Tnx

God Bless you all ((Hugs))
billwfriend
billwfriend
Hi Karan welcome....I know exactly what you feel like....it hurts to be an initiator who is the one who always has to go out to others house or always has to call someone else to talk to....and when your so called friends are playing they choose to play with their other friends not u....this sucks and I know those feelings myself....

I just say you have to get comfortable inside your own skin and learn to love yourself showing confidence in being alone and also able to be within groups and not verified by the rest of the group and still have a feeling of comfort before you can say I grew out of that....I still slip but I am almost all the way there....now...not 100% but maybe 95% there....it feels much better....and I am sober doing it too....no drugs no booze in 20+ yrs now....so that helped me grow some balls...LOL and face this fact of life....hugs bill
karanhere
karanhere
Tnx Bill for the reply and it impresses me to know that were actually able to quite drugs and booze and make positive changes in your life.I know things are really tough but it feels secure to know that there are people who have faced the same situation and overcome it.
angeleyes92
angeleyes92
That is my everyday. My kids are in marching band and I spend every night at practice but I ALWAYS have to approach someone to start a conversation. People never come to me unless they need something. I've grown used to it and don't let it bother me much anymore. I have one more year to get through and I wonder what will happen after that. The only people I talk to are band parents and without the band in my life who will I talk to then. We never get invited to places but I host people all the time. It gets tough to live that way. But I've learned to ignore people and let them do what they want. Their actions are not going to affect my health and well being. I won't let it
karanhere
karanhere
@angeleyes I hope things get better for you.As for talking we can always whenever you feel like.
Hugs and Blessings
ce2016
ce2016
Hi Karan,
I've had some experience with this as well. It comes and goes. I have good times and bad times. Like Bill said, on my good days I just manage to be comfortable in my own skin.I try not to take it as an insult, but rather attribute it to the fact that sometimes I just may not be particularly approachable, even when I feel I am. Sometimes I'm able to put out those good vibes, and then things are temporarily better. Hope things change for you in the future and good luck.
karanhere
karanhere
@ce2016 Tnx for the response..good luck to you too :)
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