Welcome to this forum, Keith. Loneliness can really hold us hostage at times. I know several people who have never gotten married or had positive relationships (if any). I know many women who had unhappy marriages and divorced and never look at a man again. Single to the very end and saying no more. I’m not sure why we think being alone means loneliness, except that maybe being in a couple is simply a cultural construct of how to be normal. Humans do need other humans that is true. I agree with you that the saying is fallacy “there is someone for everyone” like automatically it drops out of the sky like that?

I doubt the so called soulmate ever lives up to what we imagine it to be. I am sure my ideal love is just that an ideal.
I just feel lost and anxious about being here in this world. At one time I thought if I could only meet the right person things would be better. We could help each other and support each other and all would be right with the world. Now I dont know if anything could make me feel at ease about being here. It all seems wrong some how. The system is rotten to the core. I have felt this way all my life. Its like some kind of sixth sense. Many will call it being negative but I cant help if others cant see what I see. Sure there is light in this world too. Honestly I am not a negative person. I just have these feelings about the world that have been reinforced by my observations and as I see it the darkness is growing.
On the up side my time here is growing shorter by the day, until then I will just have to deal with it as best I can.
I joined here in hopes of finding some one that know exactly what I am talking about.

A friend of mine had all but given up on love. Then he joined a paid dating service and met someone right away. It can happen. You have to put yourself out there. I used to be on Plenty of Fish. That is free. Never give up hope. Have you ever heard of the Law of Attraction? You can make things happen for yourself.

Hi GreenEyes, I have been on many of those sites including POF. Never had any luck. I just cant compete. I am to honest about my situation. Rejection gets old fast.

Hello Keith1975. I can honestly say that I used to be that lonely person who had lost all hope in love. Most of my life I had avoided being with someone because I felt no one was trust worthy based on what I had observed from my father and my sister's boyfriends. I later did date my best friend and ended horribly. Years had passed and I thought I was happy being on my own, until I realized how lonely I was and that I truly wanted a companion. Before looking for someone, you really have to put in the work on yourself and figure why you think the way you do and try to improve that mindset. Only then I believe you can find your special someone because you finally are able to feel that love and give that same love back.

I speak from experience when I say this. You can find you special person

Hi Rukia, thanks for your reply. I hear what you're saying. The only thing I would disagree with is that I would have to change to give love. I can do that now just as I am.
It is hard for me to accept love, I will give you that, but I dont believe its impossible for me to accept love just as I am. It would just take someone that sees my value and shows interest without being overly vague about it.
I do have value too. I have lots to give and offer, its just not easily seen.
I am not a forward guy. I do not brag about myself. I am not flashy, nor do I have much in the way of male statues symbols and I am not anything close to a male model. Those things matter to many in this world like it or not.
I dont believe a person is bad for being attracted to these things, it just built in to some degree. If that's all the person looks for, well then sure that's not good. I am just saying without some of these things going for you it will be much hard to attract anyone, but I digress.

I feel like I am close to acceptance of some kind. Its an odd feeling really. Maybe I am ready to let go of all the worry over this subject, not sure

Some times we have to let go of all worry over a subject and let go. I think if we are fretting or anxious about something, say making new friends as my example, then we may come across as strange, or clingy, or needy or poor communication because we are in our heads. Other people usually can't read us so they tend to assume whatever value they hold. Some people will try to get to know others, but most people probably don't try is my experience.

Hi Urban, worrying or obsessing over anything is not good. For years I have had reget. Regret for my whole life. Regret for all the bad choices, for not being strong enough or having enough will to do what I knew needed to be done. Well the past is the past. Maybe I will never have the drive or the will to do the things that will change the patten that my life has followed. I am just tired of it all. Why be hard on yourself over it. That does no good at all.

I also had thoughts that if I met the right one, we would support each other and things would be right in the world. Not much of a believer lately but don’t think things are rotten, I still have hope but no longer think someone can ‘save’ me