mycroft...I too go to twelve step meetings...some times those people are doing things together either before or after the meetings...I have joined and sometimes I cannot afford to go or do not wish to go then...but I know for me that it is important to me to have some other stuff to do outside the 12 step meetings....and I know you are trying...making efforts is sometimes hard to do and nobody responds...I was in Iowa a few weeks ago at totally new group of people....I asked in announcements if anyone wanted to go out to dinner after the meeting...I got response but really I decided not to take the guy up on it because nobody else wanted to go...I thought the guy was a creep as he was also asking me to give him a ride home....but he was not going to eat he said...so I dodged out the door after waiting around to talk with some other female that I never did get a word in with as someone else was talking to her....anyway...I felt bad for not doing for that fellow but I also felt comfortable being on my own for dinner...since I did not connect with the fellow at all from his drama or share or another conversation he was having before meeting with a gal newcomer...

but let me say this...I forced my way into a group from my home group where the men *mens meeting" eat dinner together every tuesday night before the meeting...I showed up and kept on showing up...I also missed one night and asked the home group mens meeting if anyone was going to dinner after the meeting...a group invited me and I was able to have a new group...I ended up with one of those main men as my new sponsor...so now I am included if I wish to be with that group....

another meeting I was going to often met after the meeting to drink coffee or eat...I went once...I do not go to that meeting now but just could if I wanted...

the point is there are some existing groups to be broken into....then it is a bit of a challenge to be accepted there but hopefully you can make something in those meetings happen....

I wish you luck and also suggest going back to Intherooms.com and chatting it up in there...that makes me happy at times and others I just see whose there and leave...but I have friends there too...just not the close hug type for being next door...but I love my twelve step friends...still feel isolated from most of them because they never reach out to me...in my 16+yrs sober I never had a sponsee....so you know I am hurt about that...but I still stay within the program to be with people....it helps more than anything else because of its support ideals....

hugs and you want my email just ask....hugs bill

Take up a nerdy hobby like reading comics, playing dungeons & dragons, or just go to a comic shop to meet some friendly people. For example im a nerdy kind of person and tend to visit my favorite comic/table top gaming store. Most of the stores have friendly staff and lots of regulars who hold social events to bring in new players, attract new customers, and just have a fun time.

Whenever I feel im too alone I just stop by some stores and they always welcome me with a more warm and accepting greeting. Im not sure if you have such place like that near your home but its a real isolation killer.

Lol after alot of visits you end up going to local sci fi conventions for entertainment and meeting even more friendly people with similar interests. Story of my life