Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Jtiffsmi 02/13/2020

Have you ever been listening to music and then a love song comes on and you think to yourslef, "I have no idea what that's like. Ive never been loved like that before."? No one has ever thought that I was so important or so wonderful. It used to get me down a lot more, but now I've become so numb to it. I've convinced myself that being alone is good for me. But sometimes the feeling of being wanted like that is so over powering. Like, what is WRONG with me that no one would ever feel that way about me. I really do just want someone to look at me and see forever staring back. I've had to become ok with being alone for the rest of my life, because it's very possible that its going to happen. It makes me feel needy and unworthy. I have to have mini conversations with myself, saying that I am a whole and complete person all by myself. I am a single mom with 2 boys, and our family is not broken because I don't have a partner. I say these things over and over. But am I just lying to myself to make myself feel better? If thats the case, I'm going to have to keep lying because its the only thing that gets me through the day.

Lilly23 02/13/2020

Yep. I know all to well what that's like. I've never had anyone to give my love to, never had anyone show or make me feel love or care in a relationship. I may never have that in this life. Sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality when dealing with ppl but it sure does hurt and gets lonely at times.

maria718 02/13/2020

I've been hurt so many times in the past, that I avoid being in love or someone loving me. Now, if someone is looking at me, I'll turn the other way. If someone tries to talk to me, I'll say something stupid to turn them off, it's safer for me that way. I sent out vibes that I'm not friendly. Even though I would like to be in love again, the way I behave now, it will never happen again. So I just had to accept it, but yes, it's very lonely, and it sucks that there's no one to do anything for me when I need help. And on Holidays, it really sucks being alone. P.S. I am also a single mom and I feel like I deprived my daughter of a real normal family life. I feel so guilty about that.

Scaredandafraid 02/13/2020

Here's me question. Do you sabotage yourself? Do you turn away from trying to be with someone? Sometimes we are so set in our ways we miss the obvious opportunities or we do not put ourselves in the situations that would allow us to be with someone

Jtiffsmi 02/14/2020

I don't know if I sabotage myself, but I definitely don't go do the things that would help me meet people. Because I don't really like going out and being around a whole bunch of people I don't know. Its a sad vicious cycle.

Scaredandafraid 02/15/2020

I understand the large group things being unsettling. I myself hate crowded places but love bowling. I try to go during times i know won't be as busy. I hope you are able to find some way to balance.

Scott46 02/16/2020

I think we all want the storybook romance. But the love expressed in songs and movies is just not real. The entertainment industry sells us dreams and gets rich doing it. Real life is messy. But I think we can be reasonably happy if we find the right person. I wish I knew what else to tell you except that I hope things improve for you.

HopeandMoreHope 02/16/2020

Sorry for the challenge that being alone can bring....I think we all understand. I think Scott speaks wise words...the storybook romance is often exaggerated. Life is hard and it is filled with ups and downs. You may find the right person when you least expect it. If it is meant to be, it will happen! Sometimes, we focus on what we don't have and miss what we have.......but you sound so grateful for your family and for the blessings of your sons. While you are on your own, celebrate yourself and enjoy being with YOU. Know that God has a plan and that all will be well. Celebrate your boys and all the special moments that we have the privilege of experiencing when we are Moms. Yes, there will be days that the loneliness sets in or we hear that love song and become wishful......our hearts want to love...feel that but know that all will be well. Sometimes, we are just meant to spend a season, or even more, exactly where we are. I wish you the best.

Chuckl 02/21/2020

I understand exactly how you feel. I miss just companionship and also someone to watch tv or just hold and talk to. As humans we are programmed to want this even if may not be right for us at this time....like me just coming out of your ex basically abandoning you. I've been told this is my time to work on me so I can be ok with being alone. Doesn't change the human nature factor of still needing that closeness. Hang in there. As I've been told, this too will pass. Ugh I hate that sometimes.

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