Good for you!
Stay strong. Go no contact.

Today was already hard with more changes to my job without any input from me! I left work early and invited Mr K to dinner. Yet another no (actually he said he already ate...i left no room for explanation....i just blocked and no turning back anymore) I don't get it.....he keeps saying he misses me......i can't take the hot and cold anymore.... I need a reliable companion

Oh Mel, I guess that was the last straw for you. I don't blame you. Sounds like he was sending mixed messages. You don't need that. Have you ever tried Plenty of Fish? There's a free version. I'm on it. Lately, I've gotten a bunch of messages from guys. I wrote back to one this morning. I haven't checked to see if he responded. Stick to your guns! Love shouldn't hurt!

dating when you have no commitment from other half sucks...

Big hug Mel

I know this hurts and it takes courage

Whatever you decide for any future with him?
I would make him do the chasing
It can change the dynamic completely...xo

Hugs to all my DS friends, you all know how to make the world brighter!!!

Good for you. Now stick to your guns!

You are worthy of so much more!

That hot and cold stuff is called intermittent reinforcement. Google it. A way to make people long for the hit of dopamine when the person is actually nice. So we try, we get hooked into hoping for the dopamine hit that rarely comes.

You are wise to realize some people are not good for us. Could you say Mr K brings you love, peace, or positive energy? If no, stop engaging or contacting him.

You gave this one last shot and you are wise to see it for what it is. I always feel very depressed when the person refuses that hit of dopamine - meaning they are rude, rejecting, mean, and so no hit of dopamine. All the while I am trying and hoping and wanting their friendship or love. Nope, not any more. You deserve much better. Be good to yourself.

Sorry about the job. That sucks.

I did the same for my soon-to-be ex-husband; I blocked his number to gain control of my life again. After he hacked into all of my social media accounts and emails, and he wrote some harsh words, I said no more. NEVER AGAIN. That was the straw that broke the camel's back, and ever since I unblocked during covid19, for my kids' sake, I learned to live without having to reach out to him and vice versa. I have since been with someone amazing who is helping me navigate my divorce. There is hope, you just gotta do your part, and you'll never know, your own Mr. Right will find a way to reach you!

Sound like a good decision.

Good for you. That's a powerful decision