Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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I Don't Know Anymore...

cyndeste
cyndeste
Hi, I'm new to this site, I thought maybe it might help with my situation a little. I'm one of those people who never really had many friends to begin with, in fact, in the third grade I had no friends at all. My life up to this point has been hard and there hasn't ever been anyone there for me. I couldn't even count on my family to be there for me, and for a 9 year old, that was a big deal.

A few months ago my best friend of 10 years cut me off, and decided we weren't friends anymore without telling me why she was doing it, and that alone made me feel lost, confused, and abandoned. She had been there for me through everything, through every time I switched schools, when I lost my rabbit that I was emotionally attached to, she came to my graduation, she was THERE and I appreciated her for never giving up on me up until a couple months ago when she blocked me on Facebook, blocked my number, but what hurt the most was that she couldn't tell me why she felt that we shouldn't talk to each other or see each other anymore.

Anyways all I do right now is lay in bed and browse through Facebook while listening to YouTube while I look for a new job that will help me pay for college and stuff. My birthday is in 10 days and i'll be 19. I feel like i'm going to spend it feeling alone and unwanted like the last 3 birthdays. As it is i'm crying while I write this post so, yeah. That's me.
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
Welcome to the club. You will find support here.
billwfriend
billwfriend
my best friend from high school also cut me off...he got a new girlfriend and was gone from my life...but many things had changed....we had had a big fist fight before he cut me off...but I guess I also became sick with my schizophrenia at about that same time....anyway many years later I know he cares about me and I have had contact with him semi recently...I am 58yrs old and parents are dying of course my and his neighbors mom recently died and I called him to voice mail a message about the services....he called me back a week or so later and we talked a long time maybe 40min...he now has Parkinson disease and is not happy about things related to that going on in his life...we have not had contact other than my voice mail about friend of ours dying recently too....it had been since my dad died in 2009 that I have seen him, he and him mother came to the wake for my dad....

so given time heals all wounds I am sure that ten twenty years from now your friend may be responding to you again...
Calebb
Calebb
My sympathies Cyndie.

In my humble opinion Facebook is not a "safe place."

hope I'm not on the toes of anyone here

:)
enigmaticloner
enigmaticloner
I've been through similar situations with people I've thought were my best friends. It happens unfortunately a lot once we become adults it seems. When I was a kid I had more friends than I do now pretty much, the ones I used to hangout with back then are not around anymore. They've either moved or we just don't speak anymore for whatever reason. It hurts a whole lot, and I've spent plenty of days shedding tears because of how much I miss them, but some people just don't want to continue a friendship. It's unfortunate but you will get through this, believe me.
wheretheredwoodsgrow
wheretheredwoodsgrow
Sorry to hear about your friend. It's frustrating and painful when a person cuts you off and to make it worse not be honest and tell you why. IVe been through situations too. I agree with Calebb. I avoid facebook. It just makes me more lonely and someone somewhere always gets mad at something. Can you use your spare time on another social media site/support like this one?

But hope your friend comes around and and you two get the chance to talk. :-)
Hope your birthday works out better than you think. and an early Happy b-day to you!
gramybear
gramybear
Welcome to a great forum and hoping you have a wonderful birthday when the day gets here!! Big Hugs GB
anneccleaver
anneccleaver
Oh man :( yeah... I know how this feels. I had a friend that I saw again back in like 2008 they were pregnant and working at Subway. I was friends with them from the age of 4 on up to the age of 14 but we grew apart becuase we became different people she stayed trying to be a gangster I wanted romance. Any way I saw her again and she rejected me stating that I grew up to be a rich girl made me want to laugh my ass off. What ever I was only making 8.50 an hour myself. She ignored me, I think she was embarrased that she had to work at Subway while pregnant. So I let her be becuase I knew that if I pressed matters it would make things worse between us because of how defensive she is. I still havent seen her again. I have not really seen any of my friends until 2012ish because I was estranged from my family for 10 years. They are all still mad at me in one way or another. I have had to live by my own ends too... but you know what even if it is lonely as hell if you can keep pressing on you can become a very powerful person. Instead of the Just Do It on sneakers I think I am going to have some that says Just *itch It. Becuase that is what I have had to become in my life to be able to keep what I want.
Desigol1979
Desigol1979
Welcome Honey! It's tough, I know, but it'll be worth it in the end.
marytcontrary
marytcontrary
I've cried so many tears, it is like a river. You just have to make your own life and welcome new people with caution. Some are genuine though. Don't lose them.
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