I feel the same way. People are either busy or too tired , sick, etc. to do anything.
I blame social media for part of this. You're not alone in being lonely.

You're not alone. I am bummed that I don't have any bbqs to attend today. I almost never feel motivated. I think a good part of it is my underactive thyroid. I am waiting for some clothes to dry and then I'm taking a shower and going food shopping. I am known to say these things and end up leaving it for the next day. Already feeling like it's too much trouble to get a shower. I went through a few pieces of mail and came back to the couch. I am sorry that you had to put that last line. Someday, we all won't be here. What shall we do with ourselves in the meantime? I was very lonely this morning. Who was busy, who was beach bound, who isn't acting like they feel like talking, etc. I had to have a talk with myself. I don't like feeling lonely. I need to get a life and more importantly, start dating. It's going to be 27 years since I broke off my last serious relationship. I have a lot of mental and physical reasons for this. Therefore, I am overweight but dieting and a super messy housekeeper. Kinda like a hoarder on a small scale. So I ask you to have a talk with yourself about what you are going to do to change things. I like watching Dr. Phil episodes on Facebook Watch. He uses catch phrases like you can't change what you don't acknowledge. We teach people how to treat us. Yesterday's show was about women who have lost themselves in abusive relationships. I went through that myself even though I swore it would never happen to me. My Dad was abusive. So I only see myself with a super nice guy. Put yourself on a dating website. I will do that eventually. My best friend met her bf on a free dating website. A good guy friend of mine met a wonderful girl on a paid site even though he had basically thrown in the towel. Another guy friend of mine got contacted by a girl who he dated 45 years ago. This happened via Facebook. They have been in a relationship for a while now. It can happen to you too.i really went off on tangents. Sorry about that. I think I will stay home and clean. I hope my post motivates you.

I remember, afte my divorce, about 8 years ago, I was alone for the first time in my life and I was terrified, but every day I would talk myself out of it, and find pleasure in the little things in life like my garden with my veggies growing big and strong, and my flowers. I put up a bird feeder and I watched the birds from my kitchen window and my sister sent me a book to help my identify the ones that were new. I began journaling about my experiences and other members would identify and follow my progress out of my depression and it helped them also.

Always remember, you are not alone and you can bring yourself out of it by taking it one day at a time. Journal about how you are helping yourself and you will be helping others as well. and you will make friends in the process.

So instead of focusing on the negative, try to figure out a way to turn things around for yourself even if it seems silly, like noticing something that made you laugh.......I remember once I journaled about a spider web and it made me laugh as well as others who read my journal that day. It takes practice but I know you can do it and others will be helped by your example! You can do it, we know you can and we will give you support along the way. Journal every day. Send out friend requests so they can get daily reminders when you post a new journal and then we can learn of your successes and even your temporary failures and we can share our knowledge with you. That's how we help one another....that's how we heal.....

God Bless

Have you ever thought about finding a Discord server that caters to finding friends online? I know it's not the same as actually spending time physically with others but it's the next best thing by allowing you to actually talk with others and hopefully make some new friends. People online can sometimes be really crappy but I have run across a fair share of really decent ones as well.

It was just a thought. If nothing else I wouldn't say no to having another friend to talk to so you're welcome to give me a shout any time if you want. If not that's fine too but either way I really hope you find someone to talk to to help you get rid of the loneliness you've been feeling.

Good luck!

The motivation part can be real hard! Even on the rare occasion I do have something to go to I end up talking myself out of going.
Online friends can be great. I do enjoy writing to others but its not the same.
I wonder sometimes if the ideal I have in my mind about my ideal relationship is not al little bit over the top. If you know what I mean?

Anita, you are not alone. For the past couple of years, I have felt like this too. I wish there was a support group for women close to where I live, but I have not heard of one. Texting is not the same as literally talking to someone either.

I totally understand. I am going through the same thing and add my age (75) to the mix and hoping to find some friends here.

I have no friends except one person at work because I have concluded the human heart in general has become cold. When I am around people I can feel the lack of love in their hearts and this is always confirmed by the way talk. I'm always on the lookout for someone to be friends with but most people think I'm weird, I've even overheard some saying this to someone else even when I'm standing right there. As if I don't even exist to them. I don't understand how people can be so cruel.

I hope you are feeling much better nowadays. Next time, listen tonmusic, walk in nature and scream. It helps. Big hugs

I cry from loneliness too.