i think the question that should be ask since this is useless is what were you trying to achieve? with the post what did you expect to hear? i think once that is made clear then ppl will in turn say what you deem useful.

I have hardly any money. What else matters?

YUP! Pretty much. But then, is that real love?

I've found there are more takers than givers in this world. Many have found people disappearing when things get rough for them. Good friends are hard to find. Maybe more so today in today's throw away world. Try volunteering at a no kill animal shelter, always more women than men working there and people at those places are giving types.

I think that perhaps you've simply had a rough go of meeting the wrong people. I think that we do live in a very consumerist and very greed filled society. I think the key is to try and find someone who will love you when you don't have anything to give and they don't mind that - they love you for who you are as a person, as a heart, as a soul. In loving you, they welcome you into their world intimately - when I say intimately, I mean in matters of the heart and soul, not the physical, although when the time is right, it is right, but my focus is on the heart and soul. To me, love is when someone reveals themselves to you, sees the good in your heart and soul and recognizes that even if you do something in a manner for which they wouldn't, they see your good intent. Love is forgiving, because if you don't love someone, whatever there is to forgive wouldn't matter because you don't love that person. Love sees beyond the materialistic, it is finding a home for your heart and soul, it is finding a soul mate, someone whom you are tied to, were tied to perhaps prior to meeting and whom you'll forever be tied to. Love is opening up mentally and emotionally. Love is falling in love with who the person is in terms of how they think and carry themselves emotionally because love does not see the physical body the heart and soul because love knows that everyone ages, but that doesn't matter. How a person appears, when you love, physically, is a moot issue, because you'd love them short or tall, fat or skinny. Love is also accepting of the mental and emotional aspects of someone, because everyone has their ups and they certainly also have their downs. I believe that to "be in love" is a two way street. It is accepting, but it is also being open and honest. It is accepting, but also open and honest about feelings. Love doesn't hide, but opens up, because loving is knowing that the other person will accept you for who you are, if you do open up. Love is patient, and will wait forever, if need be. Love is seeing the rest of the world as a sea of people, because nobody can touch your heart and soul the way love does, when it comes. I think that love is accepting, but also is open to trying to be better if you hit a rut, such as not expressing that you feel something for the other person. Often times, we get complacent and figure that the other person will know you love and care for them simply because you're there, but love to be perpetuated and not hit turbulent seas is a feeling that must be expressed and shared. There is no such thing as a love that is always easy, to quote maroon 5, "it's not always rainbows and butterflies", as just about any couple who actually treats the other like they're not dispensable will tell of trials and tribulations. Through sickness AND health. In richness AND poorness. In good times AND bad. Love defies all odds and reigns supreme. Love is taking a leap of faith, being open, honest, trusting, forgiving when necessary out of a desire to keep love together, keeping an open line of communication and having expectations of nothing more than being there for the other and reciprocating love.

If you're feeling as though people only love you when they can get something out of you, then you've likely never experienced love.

It IS human nature to be selfish, and it DOES get discouraging trying to meet someone of quality who is a genuinely loving soul, I know. Try to relax within yourself and love yourself. I think if you're looking for external gratification in another, you'll always be disappointed, but when you're genuinely relaxed, content and happy within yourself, and are having so much fun that you DON'T CARE if you meet someone else, it's been my experience that's when someone falls right into your lap.