Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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nra22
nra22
Recently, I've been feeling very hollow from inside. Well tbh not recently, its been going on ever since I came here but has picked up in the last year. I've always liked to be by myself however, now it is becoming more of a social anxiety. 2 years in Canada, no friends, no relationships, always inside these four walls staring at the ceiling (or watching Netflix). Believe me! I was never like this. Back home, I was very normal. I know some guys from classes but theyre not really friends. Its not like something is wrong with me, I am just like everyone else. But in these 2 years Ive really forgotten how to be interesting or how to start a conversation. Im a likable guy once you get to know me but that first part always eludes me. I cannot get over it. Ive lost interest in almost everything. I found no interesting clubs, Id rather sit at home than going to an event that I even like, I skip 5-6 classes every week and so on. I even joined a dating site last week and although I talked to some, I feel even more wrong for some reason. Its just not me. I have always undermined my own feelings. I dont know what I am doing with my life. I have no motivation, no ambition right now. Its classic killing time. I just want to be happy!
I really wanted to talk to someone but since I dont have anyone, I thought I'd sign up here and write it up. Thank you!
gustokitty
gustokitty
You def sound depressed. Did you move there for school? Do you keep in touch w fam and friends back home? I really don't know what to suggest without knowing a little more, like your fam come for a visit? perhaps you are a little home sick.
slater1307
slater1307
wow im literally siting in the same boat as you. Im a very outgoing, well use to be, but since i moved back to my town i just havent really been able to make any friends, i stopped going to parties and clubs because i end up just standing around but that doesnt bother me as much as when i do try and converse with others i either cant keep small talk or by what ive noticed they think that im some dumb-ass or crazy/weird guy. i have horrible ADHD and depression and i have fun just being my good old random, joker, dare devil, no cares given self.

but if you figure out how to get that social spunk back lmk, haha take care sir and just hang in there. Ive hit rock bottom multiple times for a few different reasons but i just try and hang on and just be patient and try to work on myself and how to put myself back out there.

sorry for the rambling, just thought id let you know that your not alone with what your going through. lives a B.
AloneNaturally
AloneNaturally
Thank You for Sharing! Moving to a different country, let alone a different city can bring on loneliness and anxiety.

I thought you might also want to join the following group at Daily Strength.

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Agoraphobia-and-Social-Anxiety/support-group
annettearizona
annettearizona
Well the internet is the whole world in your fingers...perhaps you can find hobbies etc which interests you online and then see if you can find them near you..that way you can start getting involved on your own level and pace
nra22
nra22
Thanks for the support.
@gustokitty Yes I moved here to attend university. I do keep in touch with my fam and I live here with my brother but I don't know. I'm not home sick as such but it's like I haven't been able to get myself along here at any time. It's a combination of things really!
billwfriend
billwfriend
well being that it is winter in canada people stay indoors...that is nature at its best saying to stay warm or die!

Are you involved with any kind of group on campus? They have clubs called fraternities....and sporting teams such stuff is maybe out of reach if you cannot get out to go to class...that behavior will have you flunk out fast as I know from personal experience of missing classes I had to withdraw of flunk a bunch when I was just out of high school in jr college....
gustokitty
gustokitty
I was thinking the same thing as bill about the classes, r u able to pass them without going? is your course load too heavy? it might be worth seeing a dr, maybe u need anti-depressents. u don't have to stay on forever, but maybe to get over the hump.
Sara59
Sara59
I remember college. I didn't do it very well either. Just couldn't find the point. That was a long time ago, in the 1970s, did a lot of LSD there, sorry to say, and pot. Had a lot of friends and did a lot of things, had fun I guess, but was never happy, haven't heard from a single one of those people since then. Life and learning began after I got out of there. Sometimes just telling someone or writing about how you feel takes a lot of the pressure off, doesn't it.
Butterfly85
Butterfly85
BIG HUGS, I know how you feel, I'd be happy to listen.
ann54
ann54
to me it sounds like you are having some depression issues. I also relate very much to not knowing what to say and how to continue a conversation. I feel I have nothing to contribute. we do we just have to find it within ourselves to do it.you have a lot going on, many changes and that can turn into some isolation as it is a lot to handle. I hope as you continue to be there it will be easier for you and when spring comes you will be able to get outside. d you have an outdoor activities you like?
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