Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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BeautifulBones99
BeautifulBones99

People never stay around me. I have Borderline personality disorder and CPTSD among other things. People tend to not understand me and when i get unstable, people jump the boat and im alone again. I cant trust my family at all so I never tell them anything with my mental health or feelings. 

I find people but theyre all temporary and Make me feel worse about myself.

My question is how do i become okay with being alone? Im tired of being sad about it and I dont trust anyone anymore. I refuse to be hurt again and id rather just stay lonely. I just need to become happy about it. anyone have any advice?

MelT2020
MelT2020
I feel alone at work, at church, in my meetup groups and even with my "friends". I just don't become too invested and stay somewhat detached. I'm thinking I should eventually get a dog
hasty_05
hasty_05
Have you ever considered getting proper therapy for borderline personality disorder? The big name one is dialectical behavioral therapy. I think with this diagnosis, it could be difficult to do self treatment but maybe there are some books that would help you if you do a google search. From what I understand in my limited, lay person's knowledge with this diagnosis is working on reducing the impulsiveness by understanding and naming one's feelings. Some people sit with that feeling, name it ("I feel sad") and then allowing it to be okay and letting it go. I've had friends say "hello sadness" and then sit quietly and then say "goodbye sadness."

And let me challenge being happy about being sad you are alone. Let's drop the loaded "happy" name or feeling. Let's just work on acceptance, not happiness. Happiness is fleeting and a big emotion. What if just for today, just for this hour, you can accept that you feel lonely and sad because of difficulties with relating to other people. What if you tell yourself -- okay I feel lonely but now I am going to read a book, go for a walk, plant flowers, go purchase a houseplant, clean the bathroom, etc. etc.

So often this diagnosis takes really good treatment and really good therapy from someone educated and skilled in such things as DBT. Not just any licensed clinical therapist. There may be online zoom classes and support groups for this diagnosis and I know the woman who created the theory behind BPD also created a workbook that goes along with the DBT therapy she helped create. There is hope and help for you. Might be too hard to do it alone, though.
-Maria-
-Maria-
Hugs to you!
I hear ya! Keep busy...keep moving, go for walks. xoxo
OneHoneyLemon
OneHoneyLemon
Sometimes I expect more out of others than they can give. It isn't all about me or all about anyone else, so I try to avoid black and white thinking, all or nothing. Everyone has baggage, including me.
Lifereallysucks
Lifereallysucks
Do some fun stuff that you enjoy
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