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How one presents oneself

Calebb
Calebb
1st : dressing a little better than sometimes one feels like.

Just today I had to go over to pay my landlord. Well I'm currently wanting to butter him up, so I put a better shirt on than my everyday.

It made me feel better about myself, the minute I put that "Sunday-go-to-meeting" shirt on. I can remember other times such a thing happening. . :) . I would think, "I should do this more often."

So often I think, "I am what I am," and wear the most practical things possible. But maybe such thinking is self-defeating -- a defense mechanism or something. Maybe I actually don't want anyone liking my looks.

Tho pretty old but think I look okay. Well I guess I do....

--- C.
PinterestFan
PinterestFan
"Sunday-go-to-meeting" - very nostalgic (for me) expression that I haven't heard in a long time.

I hope he is accommodating!
billwfriend
billwfriend
I just dress for comfort usually but I do have lots of clothing....I can choose almost anything to wear but weather determines what I wear usually....shorts and short sleeve shirts during summer months....now with fall coming already been into long sleeved shirts and blue jean other pants as well....I can dress to the 9s if I so desire but I tore my special suit last Nov. when I went to funeral for my cousin....closed the trunk on the sleeve of jacket,,,.more than one time
annettearizona
annettearizona
Well Calebb-you kind of look furry and cute ears :)(refering to your picture)

I use to be thoughtful of my attire-especially when my husband was around.but now I dress as I just dress-not for anyone else because (personally) I do not need or wish to impress anyone.
Oh there has been a few times when I HAD to watch my attire because of the environment called for it..
heretic
heretic
This post made me laugh. I live in my car and shower
once every two weeks. At that time I change my clothes.
I wear the same thing for two weeks at a time and couldn't
care less. What I look like doesn't interest me in the slightest.
getfuzzy
getfuzzy
I agree that "dressing up" can make one feel better about themselves and more confident. I'm sure we've all experienced times when we put on some nice clothes, got a fancy hair cut, etc. and looked in the mirror and felt really good about ourselves.

On the other hand, there are cases where people have been known to "let themselves go" and purposely make themselves less attractive for whatever personal reason they may have. Is there a particular reason why you might be thinking that you are doing this for yourself?
gramybear
gramybear
I understand exactly what you are talking about. When my depression would get bad, I made myself get up and shower, get dressed, put on a little bit of makeup, and some jewelry. It really does make a difference. And I wasn't always going anywhere, it just made me feel better about myself. Hugs GB
LivingWater
LivingWater
Absolutely, Gramybear (above post). We women need to nurture and nourish ourselves even if there is no one else around to do it . Especially if there is no one else !!! A warm shower and shampoo, followed by vanilla scented deodorant or perfume, add a little lipstick, and half of our doldrums are gone.

And for the guys, it's a suit and tie sometimes.

We gotta love ourselves first.
BlueYonderDreams
BlueYonderDreams
I definitely feel better when I am dressed nicer, wear makeup, etc. It does seem like it is a confidence boost. Yet I rarely do my makeup any more because it feels like such a chore. I wish I had some better clothes, though. I wish I could look as put together as some other people.
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