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hi everyone, hope you guys are having a good day, any sort of advice will be greatly appreciated.
so, I have a girlfriend and we've been dating since august so about 5 months or more now. we argue a lot, mostly started by me because I get this feeling that she is very unappreciative of all that I due for her. she has this thing where she doesn't feel it's not necessary to introduce me to her mother or even tell her mother about me or that we're dating, she feels I need to earn that prestige. I understand where she's coming from in not wanting to introduce some guy you just met to your family, but we've been dating for 5 months now...I send her sweet messages, whenever she's sick(which is all the time) I look up remedies online that she can use, I ask my parents/grandparents what home remedies she can do to help her get better. we talk everyday thru text(we don't talk on the phone) and I ask her about her day....we have, what I consider, meaningful conversations. I tell her how much I love her, and she in return does not relay the affection. she has a hard time even calling me "hun", "babe you know , just common things you would call the person your in a relationship with. all my family knows about her, 'm so invested in her and I jut feel like she's not invested in me. if I got hit by a bus tomorrow, it wouldn't affect her in the least bit, because none of her personal life involves me. nobody on her family knows about me, we could break u and she could turn around and live life like we never even happened. idk guy, I really like her I just need some advice on what to do
so, I have a girlfriend and we've been dating since august so about 5 months or more now. we argue a lot, mostly started by me because I get this feeling that she is very unappreciative of all that I due for her. she has this thing where she doesn't feel it's not necessary to introduce me to her mother or even tell her mother about me or that we're dating, she feels I need to earn that prestige. I understand where she's coming from in not wanting to introduce some guy you just met to your family, but we've been dating for 5 months now...I send her sweet messages, whenever she's sick(which is all the time) I look up remedies online that she can use, I ask my parents/grandparents what home remedies she can do to help her get better. we talk everyday thru text(we don't talk on the phone) and I ask her about her day....we have, what I consider, meaningful conversations. I tell her how much I love her, and she in return does not relay the affection. she has a hard time even calling me "hun", "babe you know , just common things you would call the person your in a relationship with. all my family knows about her, 'm so invested in her and I jut feel like she's not invested in me. if I got hit by a bus tomorrow, it wouldn't affect her in the least bit, because none of her personal life involves me. nobody on her family knows about me, we could break u and she could turn around and live life like we never even happened. idk guy, I really like her I just need some advice on what to do
Might sound harsh but she' obviously not invested in you as you pointed out.
I know it will be hard because you really like her but you have to face reality. Do what is best for you, of course you could wait till she calls it quits and that might hurt worse, either way I don't see the relationship working out - do you?
Hugs, D
I, personally, would sit down with your girlfriend first and explain that you feel she is being unreasonable and that this could be a deal breaker in the relationship. You want the REAL REASON(S) why she won't introduce you to her parents. Is it race, is it education, is it your job, is it where you both are living, is it that her parents are racist jerks or just plain jerks, is there mental illness, Parkinsons or Multiple Sclerosis in her family and she is afraid to let you know, is it both of your future plans, is it that her parents want her graduated from college before she gets into any serious relationship---there could be any number of reasons, but you deserve an explanation.
If she won't talk to you about it, or won't give you an actual explanation, then it's time to break up and you move on. You deserve a relationship where everything is transparent.
you sound like a very sweet person.. if she is not treating you well then it's her loss, you should find someone who loves you and treats you as you deserve :)
And then you have to stick with it in case she doesn't respond, and that is your sign that the relationship is done. You walk away, don't text, call or go see her, and don't answer her texts or calls and don't answer your door if she shows up. She gets this one last chance and that's final. You have to set boundaries in your relationships or you walked all over. You've been kind, but walked all over and it's time to put an end to all this. Best of luck and many, many hugs.
Also sounds like she's not emotionally available.
There's tons of different reasons, but it always comes down to
someone holding you at a distance, and it can chip away at you.
Part of one of my favorite quotes on Pinterest, by Michelle Obama.
'...Good relationships feel right. They feel good. They're not painful...not just with someone you want to marry, but... with people you surround yourself with.
Hope you find someone who appreciates you.
Like the other have recommended, I think you should move on and leave this girl behind. Find someone who is more appreciatie of what you do fer her. This current girlfriends sounds like she is only capable of brining life-long resentment.