Eric many of us feel the same way. Those that have a special someone don't realize how fortunate they are. All that I can tell you is to hang in there. many of us are lonely

Yup Im driving that same boat dude your not alone

what I wouldn't give to wake up next to a woman and ask if she had fun last night or to be so bold as to ask if there is anything I should improve on ;-)

Sorry you're alone. There are many of us living this way.
Not sure I've understood your post correctly. Did you have a relationship till 2001? Have you been in love with just that one person? Maybe there's someone else out there for you if you give it a try.

'i long to be someone my potential wife can't live without'
In what way will you be someone she can't live without? I think you may be aiming for a perfection which doesn't exist?!

'A good wife or husband is a great gift from God. Be prepared to wait for the right person. He'll send the right person into your life at the right time.'

there is only one person in history that was perfect and that is jesus of nazereth, I just know that some people tend to read fan fiction and grade the people around them and that is a big injustice I intend on rectifying in my life by being someone my potential wife will find hard not to like.

in answer to the other post I've never been far enough in a relationship to be considered sex worthy my animalistic desire for intimacy tends to blow up in my face like a bomb lol.

lol I still don't quite understand your post. But I do now have that song going round and round in my head
"All the lonely people where do they all come from"

let me simplify it " kind, lonely, romantic+ X number of years alone= spiteful, horn dog, asshole" if women didn't get so hung up on centuries of cotton candy fluff, men like me wouldn't exist.

And that's "someone my potential wife can't live without"

I think I understand partly where you're coming from with regard to the left hand side of your equation: kind + lonely + romantic + x years alone.That's me to a 't' though I am not as romantic as I used to be; though I fully believe it's great to be romantic every now and again.

With regard to the right hand side of your equation I only feel resentful on the rare occasion. But I understand to some degree why things are the way they are, and so being resentful is not good. If you continue down that path you will become a woman-hater and that is very unhealthy psychologically-speaking as well as losing touch with reality because women are not evil, on the whole, just flawed as any human is. I truly love women but that may be because I had a good mom who taught me how to respect women and so on. Women, I think, don't want a spiteful, horndog asshole but I think many are attracted to such men because of the apparent confidence they display. Indeed, there is the prince charming cotton candy stuff but I think women soon learn that is not quite real life and that though their man might be their 'prince charming' he's also flawed etc. I think most women will become more mature and less prone to believing fairy tales, if you will.

the only way i see my problem being solved is if we as people, not male or female come to the realization that we all have needs, and love our selves and each other based on those needs, in short the kindest thing i can do is listen, and the kindest thing a woman can do is understand i don't have to be intimate with said woman, just it would be nice to finally get the virginal monkey off my back and move forward with my life unashamed.

We all have needs but some needs may be harder to accept than others.

this is why equality will never happen men are not afraid of obstructions, hence the reason we have created dating guru's because women block their own way to couples paradise:-/

greetings warriors against loneliness excuse my moodiness earlier i am a beast without caffeine, how was your day?

good, thanks and yours? : )