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Going down hill again

serien
serien

Hi everyone, I'm new here. I made this account 3 days ago but I was hesitating to write something, I'm not sure how this works and I hope it's not rude of me to vent my feeling on a web page where most people are feeling the same way.


There's this feeling as if there is no one out there who will understand me, and this thought that I'm just strange and too emotional. I know it's human to be sad for a while, even though there are people around me trying to make me smile and understand my pain I can't seem to hold on to the thought that I'm wonderfully made or even normal. 


A couple years ago I met a wonderful guy but he wasn't the one for me (God showed me in a dream) he used to make me feel special but also tear me down by saying that I was boring or thought I had no friends, but then again he also said things like; you're pretty cool, beautiful and talented. I never knew if he did that intentionally or if it was a way to guard his emotions. (Very) long story short, I catch myself wanting his attention or i'm just craving for something that gives me comfort and it makes me so sad + all the stress from work and school... It's true i have no friends around in this city because I moved here for my future, I find it hard to be social. One summer i even tired to be social, but I was too social that it caused me to be depressed (is that strange?)


I was wondering although there is so much in my head and I'm not even sure if I make sense... if someone is able to help me in some sort of way to know how to be emotionally strong even tho I feel like giving up after 3 days of joy and 1 day of misery.

ohmbug
ohmbug
Your prior boyfriend sounds like you two just arent compatable- and that's okay! That has nothing to do with you being "less than," or "abnormal." You're going to meet a lot of people who you don't understand after awhile... God puts people in our lives for a reason; and sometimes their seasons in our lives are short. The important thing is to keep working on yourself. I can understand being secluded- That's how I was in school. And maybe being "overly," social as you put it, may be making you depressed because you may be trying to be friends with folks who aren't genuine; or you don't really have anything in common with them (and again. That's not your wrongdoing. It's just how people are!) Instead maybe try to find someone who shares a similar interest with you, or maybe through a particular hobby, favorite things, pets, animals. I have a hard time talking but I am easily brought into a convo if someone starts to talk about their pets. And i find it easier to have a convo that's genuine and not draining if it starts off easy. You can also reverse that- you can ask THEM about your interests; see if they do something similar. And I know this is tacky, but the quote is true, "Four quarters is worth more than 100 pennies." Don't go for quantity, go for quality friends. And I know you'll find them. If you ever need me- I'm here to message; I'm fairly active on here. And pray, ask God to give you direction; and He will open doors for you; dare to trust Him.
Jersey_of_Oz
Jersey_of_Oz
Thank you for trusting us enough to share. I know that can be very difficult to do sometimes, but it can also be very helpful to share. I know you are a brave, admirable person... Here is what else I know.
You deserve to be loved. You were made with intent from a perfect and loving Father who cares about you and wants you to have the best things in life. He stands with his arms open to you to crawl up in his lap and tell you your hurts and pain. Because, He wants you to feel love, and you deserve to feel love. Don't sell yourself short - ever. You are the child of a King!
The best advice I can give you is to fill that hurting - that longing - with G-d. Find something you can do to serve Him or serve others in His name... Pray each time you feel that pain in your heart for G-d to fill it with his love and joy. .... Change your habits to leave behind that things that remind you of that earthly love and find the love that G-d made for you that is out there waiting for you.
Sending you hugs and my love for your healing.
serien
serien
Thank you guys!! your advice/encouraging words mean a lot to me. I took some time to think about it once more. It's going to take some time to appreciate myself fully and I should seek God more and focus on something else, it's just that after all this time it would've been easier. I'm really grateful for your support!! I really am and honestly i am starting to feel a little bit better