Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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suzi44 10/02/2011

My mom came to visit me yesterday but I feel like she isn't very supportive of me emotionally. The last time she was here when I was heartbroken because I got fired from my job, she told me to go to a therapist instead of offering me comfort herself. I feel like she just doesn't want anything to do with me. The real me. It really hurts me a lot.

Then, when i go to therapists, I feel like they are very overpowering to me and I feel terrible for at least a week after I see them. I feel like I have nowhere to turn.

And then, I joined okcupid online dating site and guys just wanted to push me into im right away. One of them I did im with but all he wanted was chat sex. Disgusting! how can I meet a nice guy and put a good photo on the site. I altered my photo last time and I met a nice guy but he wasn't interested in me after we met. Maybe I should alter this photo too.

deleted_user 10/02/2011

Hi suzi44, Sorry to hear about your job loss. I completely understand how you feel and am sorry you're going through all of this. You're not alone though. My mom and I have a very distant relationship too and she has told me on several occasions that her problems are more important than mine. Maybe your mom cares about what you're going through but doesn't know how to help you. A lot of people think shrinks are the answer to all psychological/emotional problems when, in fact, all peoople need sometimes is someone to listen and offer a few kind words. I've use to see a psychologist when I was struggling with depression and he did not help me at all. That doesn't mean all therapists are like that, try someone else.
I also signed up to several online dating sites with no luck. Plentyoffish, zoosk, eharmony, match.com When I'm not talking to creeps or perverts I find guys who are everything I was looking for and interested. We both make a connection and I bring my expectations and hopes up only to be dissappointed when I never hear back from them.
I know how things can be though but hand in there. Just hope that things will get better because you wont give up on you. Hugs.

cme135 10/03/2011

I often struggle with meeting people too in the dating world. Ive kinda stopped temporary to like myself better before I can find a girl to like me. As for therapist I have tried a few over the years with limited success. I am a big advocate for support groups and wish there was more around my area. If that interest you then check out meetup.com. Thats how I found some good groups and clubs to get involved in. Now I live in a no man's land and having a hard time again meeting people.

deleted_user 10/04/2011

sounds like your mother is a bit cold and detached, unfortunately some people are like that.
it sounds to me as if you need time out to discover you and know what you want from a partner etc.
therapists are meant to listen and make you open up, so on that point i dont understand.
dont sell yourself short hun if there is something you dont like or dont want to do then be it. dont be pushed into anything.

heretic 10/04/2011

I've been trying to meet guys online for years. I actually moved across the country to live with one of them, we'd never met face to face before we started living together, and it lasted a couple of years. But 99 out of a hundred guys I have talked to (and there have been hundreds) are primarily interested in sex. I think the healthy ones rarely have time to go online. Just a theory.

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