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Feeling lonely and depressed

carolk1955
carolk1955

I'm feeling about the way I expected to feel today. It's Christmas. Since my husband died in 2017 and I have no other family, I have no one to spend Christmas with and I miss my family and the good Christmases we had for so many years. I live alone and feel lonely just about every day of the week. I moved into my own apartment two months ago and I would not want to go to another personal care home, where I lived for 3 years. When I lost my own apartment in 2017 after my husband died, I lost my car and all my possessions and my furniture. I miss that stuff. I had a nice, comfortable environment that I no longer have. People gave me a few items of furniture for this apartment, but it doesn't feel like it's mine. It's not stuff I would choose to furnish my apartment with. My husband and I were married for 25 years, and we had some good Christmases, especially those where we would travel to stay with my parents for a couple of days. Those were the good times. Times that are only memories and I'll never have times like that again. I'm feeling really sad. I especially miss my cats that were my companions. They gave me unconditional love from 1979 to 2017. I could have a cat where I live now but the deposit is $300 and I don't know how I could afford that. 

silverlight
silverlight
I'm so sorry.
i am alone today as well,missing my kitty who passed away almost 2 years ago now.

I wish i had the perfect words to comfort you but in the least of things please know i care and that you have all my empathy...

hugs
carolk1955
carolk1955
Thank you for letting me know that someone understands how I feel, and I empathize with you as well. It is comforting to know that someone is going through this also. I miss all my kitties very much as well. I felt better knowing I was caring for them.
GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
Carol. Your post made me think of my sessions with my therapist. She said that I talk a lot about my past and that I should try to be more accepting of the life I lead now. I also had wonderful Christmases when my parents were alive. I am sorry about your husband. Those memories of him will always be in your heart. I think it is time for some New Year's Resolutions. Maybe to meet new friends, get a second job, get a kitty, get out and exercise and get fresh air. And you are not alone. I have been without a love relationship for 26 years. I am sick with what I think is Covid for the second Christmas in a row. I got my first kitty in adulthood for Christmas 1994. A beautiful little Siamese boy from my boyfriend at the time. Around 1999, I started taking in other cats and some were born in my closets. I had 6 cats when I moved into my house in 2006. Last January, I lost the last one. I was so devastated. I cried for months. I was never so lonely. In July, I put a post up with a picture of my first cat saying I was ready to open.my heat to another kitty. Soon after that. I got a text from my friend from the class reunion committee with a pic of a Siamese kitten who needed a home. I said I would take him. He brings me so much joy. He is the funniest boy. I have to watch where I walk because he is always underfoot. He's also beautiful. He has the most unique eyes. They are two-toned. So think about finding a way to take in a kitty. Merry Christmas from my house to yours.
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