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feeling like an idiot

imiru
imiru

to start, my boyfriend and I have decided to date and get to know each other better but then a few days ago I was talking to him about a convention we are gonna be attending in a few days to get a time scheduale together when he suddenly said I was hurting him whenever I said, "baby" or " hunny" or when I would leave him good morning messages to make him smile. So I told him I would just keep it friendly and no more pet names till we reach that stage and now he wont talk to me. None of his friends will answer me either and all I want to know is that he's ok. I feel like I'm trying to talk to a high schooler! All I want is just some kind of answer, is he ok? Is he really upset? Would it be ok if we talk it out? Should I just wait a few days? Did I do something wrong?


It hurts so god damn much, I'd rather he just give me a quick text saying, " fuck off." that way I'll know he's at least alive, but the waiting and wondering is just too much to bear and I have no one to talk to about it.

billwfriend
billwfriend
do not worry he is fine....he is ignoring which only makes things get worse....and he will return to talking to you again....just give him space....and if he does not return then he is not the guy you want in your life anyway....hugs
mirandac
mirandac
Many people are like that they dont like pet Names.
Its More than likely from their upbringing. My ex was
Not big on too many. I guess i called him hon or honey
Thats about it or his name thats after 30 years.

Many times like Bill said just give him space and let
him Come to you. I do that when someone is mad at
me, Let them stew if they want and i will only chat in
a nice voice. i am unWilling to listen to nasty, been
There. HUGS
dc87110
dc87110
I bet he is afraid of commitment.
But it has been said that if you love someone set them free. If they come back then its meant to be.
rawblu07
rawblu07
In all honesty, it's not all that serious for him to act like a child. It's one thing to tell you he's uncomfortable with it but to turn around and ignore you after you've apologized is just very weird. Like the commenter above mentioned, he may be afraid of commitment, which could be understood but if he handles things like you calling him pet names and apologizing by disappearing then imagine what he would do if something major was to happen in the relationship that he doesn't like, again?...

I wouldn't worry about it. You've apologized and if he needs space to "get over" the sweetness you rub off on him (many people would appreciate sweetness) then give it to him. Don't overload yourself with being worried and let him come to you when he's ready and when he does, express to him how his ignoring you hurt you a bit.

Good luck!
koolman
koolman
He's not a man. He's a wimp. I'd be DELIGHTED to hear the woman I love call me baby or hunny!
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