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Feel like I have the plague

EvaSophia
EvaSophia
I don't understand. I try so hard to be nice and respectful towards people. I want so badly to have a real friend in my life, or at least a few people who seem to kind of like me.

But the only way I can even get people to want to be with me at all is to suck up and praise them all the time, while at the same time being content to be ignored, pretend to be stupid, and never, ever, ever talk about anything good in my own life. Not that I have anything good in my life any more. What's left of my family is dysfunctional and verbally abusive, and they live thousands of miles away anyway. I am alone -- so much worse with the holidays looming -- broke and unemployed with no prospects for getting a job, and my health is falling apart.

I don't want to just give up and die. Can somebody out there please give me some hopeful words, something I can hang on to?

Thank you for reading.
deleted_user
deleted_user
EvaSophia,

Sorry to hear that you have been feeling so bad. I can relate to much of the things you talk about. One thing that struck me is that your worth as a person is not determined by the way people treat you. You sound like a lovely person - sensitive and caring and they are great qualities to have in this world....
EvaSophia
EvaSophia
Sunshine,

Thank you so much for the kind words. It means a lot to me. You're right that my worth is not determined by how people treat me, but it's still very hard to be alone and to feel unwanted and invisible.

But thank you for your kindness -- a bright spot in an otherwise sad day.
Calebb
Calebb
I hope things will have an upturn for you
soon.

I like your name. Have been reading the history of those names.

(((( E ))))
EvaSophia
EvaSophia
Thanks, Calebb. It's not my real name, but my secret "SuperBetter" name. Eva was the name of my grandmother, and I picked Sophia because that was the real name of Catherine the Great. I saw a documentary on her once, and her early life was extremely lonely -- she was used, abused, ignored or underestimated by almost everyone around her. But she managed to rise above all that and make something of her life. So that gives me a little hope.

SuperBetter reference for anyone who hasn't heard of it:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lfBpsV1Hwqs
gratefulgrandma123
gratefulgrandma123
I feel like I keep saying this to every person here but I can relate to how u feel and if you'd like to be friends with me I'd greatly appreciate. My words of wisdom is I think when we have friends it can make us feel better especially when they want to talk to u as much as you want to talk to them. i think sometimes others may not have a need for friends so they don't talk as much but when u find friends who want the same kinds of things maybe that friendship can be better and more satisfying because both people want to be friends and do things to help the friendship and make each other happy.
gratefulgrandma123
gratefulgrandma123
My advice would be to try and find friends who want to be friends with u and want to have a nice friendship and get along. it is nice for everyone to have nice friendships that make u happy so seek them and u shall find. You seem like a very nice person and I think u can make very good friendships.
EvaSophia
EvaSophia
Thank you so much for your kind words, horsebackrider. The friends I lost...their lives are so different from mine that I never really fit into the group and there were so many times I couldn't join in their conversation. I need to look for friends who are more simpatico. But right now I just want to sit in a corner and lick my wounds. So every little bit of kindness helps.
MrEthereal
MrEthereal
In my opinion friends are not around unless we have something they want. Sex, money, objects, tools, they take and then they find something they want better and leave. Unless they just like to make us feel like dirt so they can feel better about their little selves. They are so one dimensional.

Find someone who likes a card game or board game you like. Don't pretend to like something they do just so you 'fit in'.

I've cut away every friend I thought I had. I cannot say what happened to my real friends I made because I lost them but we all had interests in common.

My real friends, we always tried to help each other and sometimes this included going way beyond any physical relationship. That is a true inter-personal relationship if this makes sense.

Mr. E.
EvaSophia
EvaSophia
Mr. E,

I think I get what you're saying. I agree that there are a lot of people out there who are basically in it for themselves -- who only pretend to be friends or in love because they want something from you. But I also think there are good, kind people out there in the world, people who are capable of true give-and-take friendship. I have to believe that.
MrEthereal
MrEthereal
We all need to believe that Eva. The percentage of them is small depending on where you live, but they are out there. :)
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