Peer pressure: it is always about manipulation and control - getting you to do what they want you to do, for their reasons, which serves their purpose. Nothing to do with you, what's best for you. There's so many manipulative people around. It' done and can't be changed. Sounds like next time - you'll say no and mean it.

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Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. Lao Tzu

Do what you want to do. I sincerely don't give a fuck what other people think about me. I didn't care when I was a youngster, and I certainly don't care today that I'm an adult. I do what I want to do, and say what I want to say. It's that simple. "Other people" do not pay my bills, nor do they solve my problems for me...I do that.

That quotation from Lao Tzu is true. You should try to remember that, and tell yourself that over and over, as opposed to having re-runs in your head about your mistake. It was just a mistake...you won't do it again...

Hi Orion: We all learn lessons, and from what I read, mj is probably well out of your system by now for drug testing purposes since this was a one-time thing.

A co-worker at a job was trying to get female co-workers to go to a strip club that had male strippers. She was pushing people hard and I wouldn't go and I had doubts about her anyway--she seemed like a weasel.

Turns out that while there, she took a camera out of her handbag and was photographing all the female co-workers drinking, with strippers in their laps and with their male fronts in the co-workers faces and it was not pretty. This photog showed the photos to everyone at work and people that were in the photos were embarrassed.

When someone pushes too hard, there may be an ulterior reason that involves some harm to you in some way. I would either exclude this MJ pushing person from my friend list or quickly learn to say NO and mean it. If you say NO and they continue pushing, get up and leave. That's a way of saying a BIG NO. You teach them that when you say NO, YOU MEAN NO.

I'm sorry you were in such worry and I'm glad you're okay and obviously they didn't pull some dirty stuff to get you drug tested at work.

If you only did it once and it's been 10 days then you are probably fine. You really shouldn't beat yourself up over it for a really long time. Just realize that you made a mistake and learn from it. That's what life's all about is learning from your mistakes.

Best of luck.

like they say in some quarters in Jersey,,,"Firgett a- boutit ...

I obsess over stupid things too and it becomes a habit so I can't forget it. You made a mistake, it's okay, you know not to do it again. Forgive yourself :)

I'll repost something a very wise person posted on another board:

another person's mental space
should not be
the center of my life (or my day or my thoughts, etc)

That has really helped me deal with "crazy" lol.

We all make stupid mistakes. At least you have learn from it, right?

You made a mistake due to the pressure of a friend who kept at you about it, which he should not have done. Marijuana stays in your system for 30 days so if you don't have to worry about taking any tests within that period, you really don't have to worry. It really doesn't matter what this person thinks, what matters is how it may affect your life, that is what is most important. Don't be mad at yourself. It's done and over with and I'm sure we all know, as you do, that you aren't going to let someone control you like that again or make you feel guilty for not obliging in what your friend knows is illegal. I've been told that if I smoke marijuana that it will help my terrible pain, however two things stop me. One is that it's illegal and that alone will cause me to become paranoid, and secondly, all I can think about is anything with sugar in it. I would end up being fat and paranoid. Not a great combination. Please don't be so hard on yourself, okay? You didn't do anything stupid, you did something that you didn't think through first. So go gentle on yourself. Hugs GB