Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Desperate for Physical Affection

StaresAtStars
StaresAtStars
I don't know how to be one of those people. I've never been someone that people touch. When others in school or at work would greet each other with hugs, I would get a nod or a wave. I don't feel like I am someone unapproachable, I smile at others, engage in conversations and am friendly with others, but for some reason my relationships never go beyond that person someone knows from somewhere. I don't know what I'm doing, I just know I'm tired of feeling like this. I always hear people saying to others that they are never alone, but as I scroll through my phone, there's no one I can call. I only have here.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Speaking for myself, having a pet does help quite a bit. I couldn't say that it's a completely adequate substitute for human contact, but it's better than nothing.

And I know what you mean about feeling like an outsider in social situations. It's like being with a group of friends, but not a part of them. I hope things improve for you.
CrossingtheBorder
CrossingtheBorder
I am also affection/love starved and even though I need it so desperately I viciously lashed out at those who try to show me any. The more badly I need love, the more viciously I attack so they can't get close to me. I don't know why I keep doing this over and over when I need love so badly. I am 36 yrs old and so lonely that it feels like I barely have any oxygen left to breathe. Suffocating with loneliness. Yet I feel powerless to change it. Don't know how to change it. At least you are 25 and can still make some changes. The older you get the less chances you have to repair the damage.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm married, but still have the problem of not being touched. I used to be able to hug my grandchildren, but even they didn't like it. I love going to the hairdresser and having my hair touched. I used to pay my kids to comb my hair until they wouldn't do it even for money. Then there is massages. I know that's not what we are looking for but it's better than nothing, at least for me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sorry u are so alone. I think it's good at least u have a group to turn to.
reddog201
reddog201
well it sure beats a blank . i cant answer this except to ask ppl that you feel you can talk to be a friend. you eventuly have a lot of friends. it does not take very long at all. i hope this helps. by the way i have been through this as well and in a lot of ways i still am.