Hello again, Soulinabag! I am sorry to hear you are so burned out and overworked. I am retired but so busy lately with family health issues that I feel burned out, too. Overworked and overwhelmed. I think the key to both of us is to take charge of our own emotional wellness. And that means do what we need to do to take care of ourselves. Find the courage to tell your boss you must have at least one day off a week. You must insist on your own value and worth to yourself. I act trying to do the same. I need to decide if my one day this week with no activities is worth adding in yet another medical appointment. I think I am also making my thinking into this is a catastrophe in my situation. As in I am so busy I am not able to just chill and relax and do fun things. Well I can still do fun things but my mind says I can't. You will continue to resent your job and get angrier and angrier and just explode. I know, this was me at my last job. I had a crazy, self absorbed boss who took advantage of me and I was too insecure to say no. I finally started saying no and she blew a gasket and I quit. I told her boss and the CEO and they were so afraid of my boss they did nothing. This is why I encourage you to tell your boss you must have a day off. Once you own a house, you will feel even more pressure to keep this job and the money flowing. A house is so much responsibility, people don't realize. Got to pull the weeds even if you pay a lawn mowing company. Got to have the trees trimmed and pay for it. Fix the fence, fix the running toilet and be home for the plumber. We are sitting her waiting for the air conditioning guy to come check our unit, twice annual check up. You have to be home for that, give up a day of work! Renting is not so much - granted a bad landlord makes it bad but they come in and check your A/C while you are at work. My sister just bought her first house and is "too busy" to do the required yard work, maintenance or even unpack boxes so claims MORE STRESS (in caps because she freaks out). We couldn't believe someone who works 7 days a week would take on this responsibility but she was going through a manic phase and not thinking clearly. I had to tell her to cover her outside faucets for winter, bring in the hoses, and get her furnace checked and this overwhelmed her. I tell you this not to discourage you but to remind you that the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence. Homeowners can't get by with doing no home maintenance. I find it takes no time sometimes and normally several hours a week for myself and my house. Other times, when something breaks or needs a repair guy, then it takes a lot of time. Don't be so harsh on yourself with goals that may or may not work for you time wise. Take care of yourself first and foremost. We are here for you. I am having a lonely feeling day also. I have a lot to do and feel stressed and my. health injury was painful last night so I didn't sleep. We all have these days but we must do nice for ourselves and learn to say no and heal when we need to heal. Hugs to you, glad to hear from you.

I know there are dating services that can set up dates for you during lunch or dinner. Is for people who have no time. You have to eat right? So during lunch or dinner time you two can meet and talk. The service is expanse. But it is better then you look for dates yourself. Because they screen people. Look around your city, see if any serivces like that. In san francisco there are a few.

Sounds like you need a vacation! Does your employer give you vacation time? If so, I would consider taking a week off just to give yourself a much needed rest. Then you can treat yourself to time at the beach or take the kids to a theme park or waterpark or just go for a walk in the park to get out into nature!

Be good to yourself for all the hard work you are doing and go shopping for just you and buy something that will make you feel good. You need to take breaks and sit in quiet occasionally to have some peace of mind.
If you can do that then it will take much of the stress off, from working all those hours.

~~~Peace~~~

I agree that you need a day off! That seems completely reasonable. Talk to your boss, tell him that you haven't had one day off in a month and a half, and that you need time off. I am pretty sure they will accommodate that. It isn't your fault they are short staffed. Maybe have a day in mind that you are requesting off, when you go talk to them, so you can ask right then for "this Saturday off".

Take time for yourself to do self care, relax, rejuvenate, have some fun. You deserve it!

You have alot going on! It totally makes sense. But remember you are never alone. You have your beautiful daughter and you have us here! If you ever want to exchange numbers, you are more than welcome to contact me anytime. We can support each other during times of loneliness!

Been doing that for years. I know the price! Hope you can find some relief!!

That is really hard, all of it. With the current lack of willing workers, being a supervisor is a difficult job. I recently moved to a town very far geographically from my home town, there is no family, and it has been difficult to meet new people. I found some fun things to do on Eventbrite, and through a church I have started attending. I also have a child, so it makes things very difficult.

My wife was happy and well-functioning for 66 years. Pretty, nice, social adept, we decided to move after the children left to a more active area near the beach. The market turned out to be much harder and pressurized, and we had difficulty. Ultimately she could not decide on a house and we lost it. Her depression and anxiety worsened, she had hallucination and is taking various anti-depressant and anti-anxiety medicines which seem to be relatively little.

She now says she should have taken the house, rejected subsequent ones, says she has various medical problems, feet, eyes, smell, and says she ruined everything. Family members suspected a stroke or Alzheimer given the dramatic change in behavior, but there was no damage to any function, memory is fine, and a brain MRI showed little.

I finally bought a new house with her reluctant consent and now she says she doesn't like it, but also is unhappy at the friend's home where we are now living. I've tried to be enthusiastic telling her that everyone can make mistake, decisions were joint, the market changed, and that she can have a nice life if she exercises, takes medicine, and has a positive attitude but she just continues to blame herself. A hospitalization accomplished little. She eats ice cream and wants to go on rides, and go to sleep just saying she ruined everything. What do I/we do?