Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
Hi All,
So tonight I went to my first MeetUp (MeetUp is a social-local network used to meet others and join groups in person - in-case someone was unfamiliar with it). It went alright, but this group wasn't so much for meeting people as it was supporting a commuity cause. It's a great cause though - wildlife support, and I love all kinds of critters. The other slight problem with this MeetUp group is that most of the attendees are much older than me. I love meeting and interacting with people of all ages, but I was hoping to make close friendships with women nearer to my age so we can share similar things in common. I really want to find a bestie or a couple of causal friends that would like to have lunch/coffee, go to movies, go shopping ect. It is so hard not having a female friendship in my life. My only social outlet is my neices (who have recently moved out of town), my older brother who I tag along with to his band gigs, and my boyfriend who lives on the opposite side of (a very large) town - and workes very long hours. It's not fair to my boyfriend that he's my only social connection either. I'm actually a little jealous of him. He has good friendships, some from collage and others from work. He gets together every two weeks with the guys from work to spend the afternoon lunching and drinking beer. Other times he goes to movies and concerts with them. Then there's his collage bestfriend that he talks with on the phone a few times a week. I didn't really realize that guys talk about their lives with eachother in the same way that girls do - at least these guys do! I would LOVE to have a girlfriend to chat with over the phone and laugh with. I feel like such a loser for not having any friendships. It doesn't help that I'm unemployed either - that is hard to deal with when trying to make friends as that's always everyones first question - "What do you do?" Now to be fair to myself I am trying very hard to find a good job. I want very much to find a job that I can support myself on - full time, living wage. It's very hard, especially without a degree. I feel so sad, lonely, and discouraged tonight...
Ok, I'm problably going to start rambling if I try to keep writing now. Sometimes my thoughts get so overwhelming and scattered. I hope everyone else is doing ok tonight.
~Leah
Thank you, I do plan on continuing to try the MeetUp groups. Are you sure there isn't anything like that were you are? There might be. I have been in and out of school, but I have learning disabilities that make structured classes very hard for me to do well in. I will keep trying to earn enough credits to add to my resume for employment, but I will never be able to earn a full degree. Again, thank you for your response - I hope you're having a good day/night! :-)
I joined a dog-lovers meetup here. Went to a walk at our waterfront park. Turned out most members were married and too pre-occupied to chat much with the 'fifth wheel'. So I can understand your frustration!!! At 58 years old, I don't have many options available, so I may just have to learn to deal with being alone.
Yes, married people can be a very frustrating problem as well. I don't understand why someone would join a meet-new-people group if they are too busy to interact. I would love to join a dog-lovers group, but since I don't have one at the moment it might not be appropriate. I just love all pets in general, and hope to have at least one someday soon. I guess we just have to keep trying with the meetups - there's got to be others in our ages groups looking to make friends. Feel free to message me if you ever feel like having a chat. *hugs*